I understand the mood/cognitive changes that can occur with sundowner's, but is it typical for someone to have absolutely clear thinking and most memory, without confusion, and then other days being moody or confused and difficulty or inability to remember anything? This is how my 93-year old mom acts and although I celebrate (with relief) the good days, it is at times difficult to figure out what's happening on the other days.
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This past weekend, she had a full day of promising she wouldn't get up (still recuperating from a partial hip replacement and not always steady), then 5 minutes later getting up to straightening something, go into laundry room--and it happened over and over when I couldn't stay in the room. What she says just disappears. THE NEXT DAY, she was bright, patient, and didn't feel the need to continually get up, and seemed to remember what she'd said.
My brother called that evening, and after I talked about mom getting up, and not being able to stay in the same room with her all the time (or pay for a caretaker), and her confusion, she did just what Marialake said, spoke so clearly (and making up the experiences she didn't remember or didn't happen) that I'm sure my brother believes things aren't anywhere as hard as I talk about! Most elderly, (dementia or not), will "rise to the occasion" if they want to impress others and not feel things aren't what they once were--no one can blame them, but it sure is frustrating.
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