I need a breathing person who will not be bored. Any advice?
This would be a very comfortable life in a very large home with three full walk-in bathrooms,etc. and all modern conveniences but I sit around most of the day so there is an enormous amount of free time.
Ruth you sound like you need some help, perhaps someone to live in and be a companion and possibly assist you when you need it. Do you have any children close by or close friends that might be able to assist you? Sometimes it is better to have another person help you with this so you can get their opinions and help. It is all a bit overwhelming.
You need to find an agency that has companions who might be able to stay with you. If there are churches in your area you could call them and ask if there is help through them with finding someone willing to live in or just stay with you during the day and maybe help occasionally.
Many years ago I had severe Panic and Anxiety and my husband worked nights which made it worse. I went to a couple of churches and asked if they had a board where I could put up a notice to rent a room to a woman. I wound up over time having three women and one young married couple from Germany come and live with me. I did not charge a lot ($250 a mo) because I needed the companionship or knowing someone else was in the house.
I felt safe with these people and that is what I am worried about for you. You need someone to come and stay with you but I want you to be SAFE and not allow just anyone to move in, therefore you need the assistance of someone else to help you interview prospective renters.
Make sure they sign a rental agreement and make sure you have house rules that are given to them so they know that they cannot do certain things....like no parties at the house, no pets or yes to pets, no working on vehicles in the driveway, must clean up after themselves, responsible for keeping their room clean, allow them to use the kitchen and laundry facilities etc.
If all else fails ask your doctor if there is an organization he could please put you in contact with that could help you.
Sounds like a great situation for an artist or writer! They would love to have enormous amounts of time, a comfortable place to live, with some responsibilities but plenty of time to think, be alone, or share their art. If you could find a middle aged person who is struggling and would appreciate that set up. Make sure they are good housemates: have them visit at least twice first. Have all responsibilities, hours, and expectations in writing!
My friend had a hard time getting a caregiver out of her house when she had to sell it.
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You need to find an agency that has companions who might be able to stay with you. If there are churches in your area you could call them and ask if there is help through them with finding someone willing to live in or just stay with you during the day and maybe help occasionally.
Many years ago I had severe Panic and Anxiety and my husband worked nights which made it worse. I went to a couple of churches and asked if they had a board where I could put up a notice to rent a room to a woman. I wound up over time having three women and one young married couple from Germany come and live with me. I did not charge a lot ($250 a mo) because I needed the companionship or knowing someone else was in the house.
I felt safe with these people and that is what I am worried about for you. You need someone to come and stay with you but I want you to be SAFE and not allow just anyone to move in, therefore you need the assistance of someone else to help you interview prospective renters.
Make sure they sign a rental agreement and make sure you have house rules that are given to them so they know that they cannot do certain things....like no parties at the house, no pets or yes to pets, no working on vehicles in the driveway, must clean up after themselves, responsible for keeping their room clean, allow them to use the kitchen and laundry facilities etc.
If all else fails ask your doctor if there is an organization he could please put you in contact with that could help you.
God Bless You!
My friend had a hard time getting a caregiver out of her house when she had to sell it.
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Here are some ideas.
as your doctor if he/she can recommend someone or an agency to help
contact your local Agency for Aging and ask them
if there is a seniors association or senior's day care in your area, go there and ask them
contact your local social services for ideas.
Come back and let us know how you are.
(((((((((((hugs)))))))))) and have a good day Joan