When and whom to call when friend does not answer phone?

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twocents Asked March 2014

When and whom to call when friend does not answer phone?

My friend is not elderly, but is getting up in years: around 64 years old.
She is in Midwest, I am on east coast so going there physically is not an option (as I'm trying to take care of a 91 year old as well).
She has been unwell for quite a while. When I would call she had just gotten over a cold, did not have any energy, etc. This persisted for quite a long time, when urged to go to doctor, would say she is waiting on insurance.
A couple of weeks ago, @ Wednesday 15 or 22, (time is blurring) she could not stand when getting out of bed and called paramedics.
She was discharged the following day with some meds, her liver was not functioning right, she was not eating right. I think she is suffering from severe depression, personally.
I was able to call her a couple of times (along with another friend) but Wednesday of last week (march 26) was the last day of contact. The other friend (whom I call as well) said she could hear the phone beeping because it was running down.
Now I get no answer. I have tried emailing whom I think is a son, I have left one message with one number, and am going to try and leave messages on others. So far no one has gotten back. I really do not want to involve her ex.
I am thinking if I hear nothing in any form by Wednesday April 2 I am going to call the local police.
Approve? Any other suggestions?
thank you.

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score 2 · Answer 1

Hopefully this is a wakeup call for the sons. If you can get the phone number of someone else nearby, a neighbor, that would be good. Thanks for posting back!

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Thanks for the update, your friend is lucky that your have her back,

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Friend is ok. I really do not know what order events took place. I also do not know if I or another person had anything to do with the outcome.
Friends' sons came round and picked friend up and now she is staying at one of the sons house. The other son called me last night. He had gotten my message on Saturday. I do not know when they picked up friend.
He did say that if they had not done that, things might not have turned out as well. The hospital had notified them so I really do not know at what point they intervened.
I did have quite a few phone calls with the police. They did go out, could not get an answer, called me for the sons phone numbers and it sounds like they managed to get hold of one before they did any damage to the door or window.
so far, all's well that ends well.

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Push the police for more effort on the welfare check..The top local story on the news tonight....police had been doing welfare checks for several days at a local home. Finally they were told to go the back door. It was unlocked, and insides they think they found two bodies. Or at least parts of two bodies, they haven't figured it out yet. News at 11:00.

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Yes, my friend (63 at the time) was lying on her floor with a stroke for a day. She's now in assisted living where she'll be for the rest of her life because they didn't get to her fast enough to get the stroke treated.

I hope this is a false alarm and if it is, be sure to get the name and number/email of a local nearby neighbor who can act as a go-between. I'm single and 63 and another single friend and I shared that info with each other (she also lives in another state). She wasn't very good about answering her phone and it would concern me. Particularly when you're single and alone. Please let us know how it turns out.

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You should call back; my friend, who was older than your friend, lay on the floor for three days after having had a heart attack. Fortunately, she survived, but if no one has seen or heard from them, call 911 and insist that they get inside her house.

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update, got in touch with law enforcement. so far, not many answers. they knocked on door: no answer. they are trying to contact son before they kick door down.
you think someone would know how to pick a lock.

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