My wife's only 40 yrs old and sleeps all the time after she get's home from work. Any advice?

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dogabone Asked April 2014

My wife's only 40 yrs old and sleeps all the time after she get's home from work. Any advice?

My wifes a baker. She works early morning hours. After she arrives home from work she will sit down on the couch and watch TV and fall a sleep within 5 minutes. Understanding of her working early hours. I hate to see her sleep her day away. I wake her up all the time during the day so she don't sleep her day away .Is this normal for a person to come home from work, sit down and fall a sleep so soon? She can fall a sleep within 5 minutes from sitting down in a chair.
She comes home on her lunch hour sits down in her chair and falls a sleep. I again wake her up. If I don't wake her up she will sleep all day into the night.
She goes to bed at 9pm and wakesup at 3am. She only gets 6 hours of sleep before work. Maybe that's the reason not enough sleep. But, I'm becoming concern if this is normal for people ?My job I drive dump truck local. I go to bed at 9pm and wake up at 2am. I only get 5 hours a day of sleep. I don't fall a sleep as soon as I get home from work. I'm like a machine my body is use to those hours. Who wants to go to bed at 8pm at night? That to me is too early for me to go to bed. Sometimes it don't get dark until 8:30pm. Understanding that we are all not the same.
Do you hold a 40 hour a week job? If so? How many hours of sleep do you get?
I noticed after i turned 35 yrs old I found my self needing to take a nap after I get home from work But, when I do. There goes the rest of my day gone down the tubes. Other countries say that USA works to much.To me 40 hours a week is to much for us to work to make ends meat. Be nice to only have to work 20 hours a week and recieve the same pay lol.Who ever started this 40 hour a week working rule anyway?

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One more question, could she have sleep apnea? perhaps her sleep in not restful enough.

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The good news is both of you have similiar schedules and neither have swing shifts. If you get up at 2 AM, her sleep is already interrupted by then. I do not think there is anything "wrong" with her, but a DR visit would be a good thing, also ask about trying melatonin, it is supposed to be good for regulating a sleep cycle.

Also, is she using excessive caffeine, energy drinks, Mountain Dew? Maybe in trying to wake up, she is setting herself up for a crash.

What about weekends? Do you try to keep "normal" hours on weekends and have to retrain yourselves every Monday. I would focus on early bird specials and matinees and try not to go to bed too late on weekends.

Maybe try to take up an activity such as a mellow talk and walk around the block when after work.

Sounds like you are both working hard at building your lives, I am sure you will succeed and get through this. Best of luck to you.

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Imagine yourself at the gym for a 6-hour workout w/o breaks. That's your wife's job. So of course she's going to pass out when she gets home. Her body needs to regenerate, and waking her up really doesn't help.

But I understand where you're coming from. Talk to her about the importance of sticking to a schedule, so get that alarm clock ready and make sure she's well fed before leaving the house. ... Don't forget to throw in a couple of kisses; even when she's sleeping.

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From what I've read, if a person falls asleep in 10 minutes or less every night, they are SLEEP DEPRIVED. When I went to my doctor and talked to her about being tired constantly, she said that in America if a person is tired all the time, it's usually because they're not getting enough sleep. She asked me how many hours of uninterrupted sleep I get a night. When I actually stopped and figured it out, I'm averaging 5 to 6 hours every night for YEARS! Dr. said that only getting 6 hours average for awhile is one thing, but years? How did that sneak up on me I wonder? Now if I could just tell my brain to keep asleep those extra 2 hours would be great. jeesh

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i would suggest, painting your ceilings, as a darker shade of paint does cut down on light. the cappuccino color works well...
Sounds like you are both sleep deprived,
eight hours...
after my heart operation, my day was divided in two shifts of 12 hrs.,
where I slept 4 hrs. each shift, lets say 9a-1pm and 9-1am, which gave me two 8 hr. periods in one day, i am just saying people are all different.

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If your wife needs to be up at 3 she should go to bed at 7 pm or so. Shift work is s b $$! $. Is she unhappy with her sleep cycle? If so, suggest she see a sleep doc. Otherwise, stop waking her up.

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i have a friend who falls asleep while shes talking. shes asleep the moment she lays down at night. thats absurd to me. when i lie down i have a whole days data to sort and file. probably neither situation is ideal but im thinking i aint as messed up as " flatline " .

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Stop waking her up! Let her sleep for goodness sakes!! She needs at the least 8 hrs a night!!!

Plus you said she's a baker, so she spends her entire work shift on her feet in a hot kitchen, that is totally draining on her!!!

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A person's job is not always a 9-5, Monday-Friday work week. A healthy human body requires at least 8 hours of sleep in a 24 hour time frame. Sleep time depends on wake time. If your wife is working a typical 40 hour work week she is working 3 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. In reality your wife should be sleeping from 6 p.m. to 2 a.m. to get the proper amount of sleep and to get to work on time. Your logic for sleep time may be fine for you, but not all people can function on 5 hours of sleep per 24 hours. You want your wife up at night then let her sleep her 8 hours during the day. I have read many of your posts about your aunt and now about your wife. Do you have control issues? Or is it possible you are unknowingly sleep deprived and your thinking and judgement are being affected?

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I too have a problem with long-term sleep deprivation due to the hours I work, but recently developed a problem with excess sleepiness - I can sit down and doze off. I'm working on getting my thyroid regulated. I had thyroid surgery back in July and the problem became much worse. Get the sleepiness checked out by a doctor as there may be an underlying cause of the sleepiness. You certainly would not want her to fall asleep behind the wheel of the car or while operating machinery at work.

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Maybe she is depressed over your crazy situation with the demented aunt. I know auntie stresses you out, maybe it is stressing your wife out too. Caregiving can kill you and make you very hard to live with. You could make the wife feel better by getting away from the aunt. You will calm down and wifey will perk up. Take her on a nice vacation.

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Let the poor woman sleep!

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She sleeps in the daytime because she doesn't get enough sleep at night.

Duh.

Has your wife asked you to wake her up? Has she asked you to be in charge of what hours she sleeps?

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For me, there are more important questions:

- is this new behavior? for how long?
- how is your personal relationship? Aside from needing more sleep as suggested by the others, could she this be an avoidance technique?
- when she sleeps, is it soundly?
- how is the rest of her health? heart, lungs, blood sugar levels, her teeth?

All of these things can contribute to her need to sleep. If she's just falling asleep at the table or right after sitting down, she's exhausted and obviously needs it .. but my question is, why? Have you talked about it?

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She's not sleeping her life away. She is getting NO sleep. Why on earth do you wake her up? Tell her to go to bed.

Are there kids, in the house? Who has dementia?

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If she gets 8-9 hours of sleep a night, she will do much better. She'll need your support for quiet time to do that since she'll have to go to bed at 6 or 7pm! You might find it useful to look up the term sleep deficit - the body remembers cumulative sleep loss. So it will not be enough for her to get adequate sleep for one night, but she will likely need extra sleep for many weeks maybe months until she can return to normal. It is dangerous to function and drive while being as sleep deprived as you describe her to be. How fast someone falls asleep while at rest is a good measure of their sleep deficit. Good luck!

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Sounds like she needs to be in bed at least by 7 pm to get enough sleep. I can't say that I blame her. To make sure, have her go to the Dr for a complete check up.

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She's awake at 3 a.m. Did you really need to ask this question? Has anyone ever told you that resemble a character from Family Guy?

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My wife's only 40 yrs old and sleeps all the time after she get's home from work. Any advice?

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