My mom is 88. She is bordering on dementia, but still living alone. My sister and I are at her beckoned call and she is running us ragged. She's such a sweet fragile little lady. She has no friends and totally depends on us for companionship. Mom doesn't like to be alone and is always coming up with situations to get us to come over to her house. She calls me frequently crying that she is lonely. Sister and I both work. I have my own business and I do work out of my house, but I can't pay attention to mom the way she seems to be needing. My question is, how do I get up the courage to look my little mom in the eyes and tell her she has to sell her house and go into an assisted living facility? Do I need psychotherapy to get through this?
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My point is by having less have to dos for mom, you may have time and energy for more want to dos. Maybe you can sell her on that.
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I'd get her into a facility and then look into selling the house. One step at a time. Once you know she's safe and taken care of, then you can focus on the house piece. This is going to benefit your mom, not hurt her. She may not realize that at first, but once she has people looking out for her, she'll settle in. If she's bordering on dementia, now is the time to do it, to get her settled before her condition worsens. My mom lives in independent living and loves where she is. She's 94 and has lived there since she was 81.