I am moving and need to tell Mom. How?

Then tell her you are moving, but not so far away that visiting her will not change. Give her your change of address and continue on with what you are doing. Then follow kathyt1 and her advice.

Why do her words cut like a knife? Are you abandoning her? No you are continuing the visits. Tell her you are moving, the reasons why, and when she brings up abandoning her jus tlaugh give her a kiss and say I would never do that, I love you.

Delay telling her until you have moved, continue to visit and she sees there is no net difference for her.

So many people are telling me not to tell her. I just don't think that is right. She would be really pissed!!! She sends mail to me if there is a question on medical bills, etc. So I don't see not telling a option. I do agree to tell her at the last minute though!!!

Somebody needs to know you have moved in case Mom has an emergency.
I think I would tell her on your last visit before the move. tell her you will see her in two weeks but on the first hubby starts a new job or is retiring and we will be living in-----------------. will call you as soon as we get there and my cell will be the same so you can call if you need anything.
You are going to get harassed whatever you do so leave the news till the last minute.

Drop it for now, and tell her after the move, so she knows and believes you are still in the picture.

If you'll still be seeing her every other weekend there's no reason to tell her that you've moved.

Hi msjpk1. I do not see the point in telling your mom and getting her upset. That is especially so if absolutely nothing would be changing when it comes to your weekend stays with her. I would make the move quietly. Keeps things just like you say they would be then in a couple of weeks or so after the move let her know that hubby started a new job and that you all are living in Timbuktu now. Maybe after she sees that nothing has changed, there would be no guilt trip or a less guilt trip from her and you will not feel so guilty.