What do I do when my Mom fights against me to keep her from falling?

If she is noncompliant with what will keep her safe, you may have to let the chips ( and her) fsll where they may. If she's got some dementia, this is more understandable. If it's a personality variable, it's stil understandable. In either case, you may have to wait for the big fall to happen and have someone take the decision out of her hands.

What you do is accept that you can't make her use a walker or stop engaging in non compliant behavior. It's really hard to let that go and know that she'll probably fall and get hurt. But comes a point where there really is nothing you can do.

I don't know how old your mother is, but my mother is 86 and has been resisting my help for the last 8 years... They know they need you but 'think' this resistance is going to keep their independence... Stubborn aren't they?... Now that my mother is 86, I instinctively know when to hold her... She likes me to hold her hand 'down' as if we're subtlety walking along... It's been hard on me from the start... but, I just do what I can... Oh yes... she actually cried when I told her she needed to get a 4-legged walker with a seat (recommended by her doctor) ... (instead of a 3-wheeled walker with no seat... which I hear isn't very unstable... especially for a taller person)... so it's become a fixture in her bedroom that she puts her papers on... I feel that she'll know when she 'really' needs to use it... (older people don't know all the trouble/time caregiver's go through to get these things to keep them safe)... You're definitely not alone...

So if you go to assist her like holding her elbow or hand she fights you? She doesn't think she needs the assistance, am I reading that correctly? Then don't help her. If she's fussing with you and smacking you away she could lose her balance. If she starts to fall try to do a 'controlled fall' where you grab her and let her slide down your leg to the floor. Then tell her, "I told you so." ;-)

Mom refused to use her walker and was grabbing onto furniture. I finally told her "If you fall, I will NOT pick you up. I will just step over you, get you a blanket and a pillow and you can lay right where you land." She was unimpressed. She finally got a cane, but tripped over it while trying to walk and use the cell phone. No texting and caning!!