Is it dementia or attention seeking when Dad poops himself?

thanks for your support and comments... shaking he's been in depends since his stroke 5 years ago.

You are an angel, I would draw the line here and look for a facility.

ypiffani, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. From your profile I see that your dad's dementia started very early. He is only in his 60s now, and he has had it for a while. Dementia is always sad, but somehow it seems most dreadful when it strikes early.

I think this is definitely a dementia thing. Even if it is somehow to mess with you, that is not what a normal mind comes up with to mess with a daughter.

How long has it been since he has been to the doctor who is treating the dementia? I think it is time for a visit. Provide the doctor ahead of time a list of your concerns.

It may also be time for a change in living arrangements.

I would say it's the dementia - your dad's brain is broken. And I would also say you need a break. Can you get someone to help you out? What you're dealing with would try anyone in short order. Call in the cavalry to help you out!