Emotional abuse at senior housing complex. Any advice?

We ran into this a few times at a senior community in TX. Younger people were allowed to stay with residents if they were spouses or caregivers. Sometimes unemployed ne'er-do-wells would slip in under the guise of caregiver. They usually caused misery to the resident and all the neighbors. The best way we found to handle it in TX was to complain about infractions to the management. If it was serious enough, the management would tell the people they had to leave. If the trouble makers wouldn't leave, the resident they stayed with would have been evicted. The management was able to keep the gated community fairly quiet for the seniors living there.

I would suggest you contact Adult Protective Services. This behavior is abuse and needs to be addressed or it will get worse. You might also contact a large church in the community. Many congregations have professionals that will help those that can't afford their service, such as attorneys. It is not unusual to find a pastor that has extensive training in counseling and they will also have many resources they can put you in contact with for assistance with this bully. Finally, there may be an Ombudsman organization in your community. These caring individuals will match you up with a professional that will help you with little or no cost. Good luck and be safe at all costs.

I cannot believe the *greatest generation* and the generation after that, many of which who fought in wars, is afraid of one young adult.

Next time someone sees vehicles and homes being vandalized, call the police.

Report to APS as an anonymous call. Request to be confidential and ask them to investigate. Make sure you relay only factual information regarding incidents, dates, times. With regard to cars being vandalized, the police should have been called to investigate and if a resident is certain of a suspect, they can anonymously file call in the name and police will handle from there.

Certainly can understand your and other residents fear. It is so unfair to move to a senior living residence and then find that rules have changed and these individuals are terrorizing the residents. Certainly, even if the community HOA has changed the by laws to allow under 55, they must have rules regarding people loitering or disrupting the peace and welbeing of others. In our community disruptive children, guests OR residents are spoken to by the management company and then a letter follows. If it can't be resolved, then legal action is taken by the property management company against the homeowner.