It has been 8 months since this happened. My Mother has tried to ask other programs to help her in the town that we live in, they either refused to help her, or said their was no funding in our town. She is a senior citizen, but no help for seniors if you own your own home. This is a crappy small town to live in. But she says she can't move to another town. She will be 61 yrs. old in a week. My Mother is on a limited income and so am I.
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Need to paint the mud room ceiling today but it's stormy and my big dog is glued to my leg so I'll get the first coat on with a brush rather than roller & paint tray. I do the best I can with what I have. Youtube is wonderful for how to do stuff yourself.
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Now you are getting some income - probably SSDI and maybe some TANF- and probably also getting SNAP - there is income, if you cannot do without some things to be able to save enough for a plumber, then you should not be homeowners.
So is mom current on all her property taxes, insurance, utilities? Does she do whatever maintenance on the property that is needed? Would she be viewed as a "good neighbor"? If the answers to any of this is no, then she should not be a property owner. Put the house on the market, listen to the Realtor as to what is realistic to sell it for and then sell it for close to that price and then go onto the list for subsidized housing in your area. You & her could possibly get a unit so that you can share the household and help each other out rather than depending on social services.
Beyond a single small town are legal resources. If your mom has dementia, your family has some decisions to make (like advance directives, durable power of attorney or guardianship, final arrangements). Having counsel from an elder law attorney would be invaluable (some may offer free consults). Every state has resources for seniors and the disabled that can also be valuable resources. For various reasons, Mom's perception of lack of assistance and being able to sell the house or move may not be fact.
You know that every house requires continued maintenance; you know it will get worse the longer it's left untreated. A months-long untreated plumbing problem by now could've created *more* problems like damaged (weakened) floors or one or more types of mold. It's one reason many people in *good* health prefer to rent!
My Dad is 92 year old, a mega senior citizen, who owns his own home.... Dad can barely walk around, has hearth issues, can barely see out of one eye... yet he is able to fix things around the house when I bring him the parts from the hardware store. If the job is too big, he budgets for it, and calls in a professional.
Rosalia, what is wrong with the plumbing? Many things can be fixed for little money. Other things are more major. If you can tell us what the problem is, someone may have some DIY advice or some idea how you can approach getting things fixed.
No body owes you the help, but a kind neighbor or church member may be willing to lend a hand, or the organizations GA suggested. Are you new to this "crappy" little town, or do you have equity in relationships in this community?
Also, plumbing can range from simple (snake a toilet or plug a leak) to specialized labor such as clean a septic tank.
Your tone sounds frustrated, I wish you well.
Is the house totally paid for, if not, how is your Mother paying the mortgage payments? The property taxes? The house insurance?
Are you telling us your brother never comes to visit your mother? And just because he was born male he's the only one that should fix the plumbing?
Sometimes tradespeople will donate time and fixtures to worthy and needy people. Have you contacted your local tv stations to see if they have problem solvers who can identify such people?
What exactly is the plumbing issue? A few of us here have some DIY experience. Maybe it's something that you can fix yourself, despite your disability.
I am curious why you and your Mom would think a local government is suppose to help?
Sell the home "as is" and find a nice rental.
I'm really curious why anyone would think somebody would help them fix the plumbing in a home they own. I've been poor as dirt and never expected somebody else to fix a problem in my house. If she can't afford to maintain it, maybe she should sell it and move into an apartment. ??
Why are you both on a limited income? What does that mean?