What would you do if your mother was scheduled to be bathed by a new caregiver? When introduced, she stared at her as if she was in a trance. I should have expected this because she hadn't responded to me earlier. She is 91 years old, and most of the time she is confused. She goes into a rage when she's angry and at times refuses to eat or get changed. It was a judgement call .So I informed the caregiver that I did not think it was a good time. Not sure if I made the right decision, but in the state she was in, I didn't know how she would react to a stranger, especially one trying to give her a bath. She has become hostile in the past,,yelling and raising her tiny fists, when I attempted to change her.This is all very new to me. Do you think I made the right decision?
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At some given time her mother is going to have to accept the care. I would suggest yes let her say no this time... but tell her that she will need to cooperate next time. Your going to have to pick your battles unfortunately, and be strategic about when you relent and when you don't. Once a bath or some other care act is in place be very cautious about letting her say no or you will have to battle all over again..