What do you do when your parents lie to the doctor about taking their medicine?

my mother is being cremated this afternoon, so I might be mentally away with the fairies. But it is a lovely sunny day, I could not be happier for the celebration of her life and her birth into her next journey. Bev.

no I am not kidding. This is exactly what happened. And I stopped taking sides with the Doctors and Nurses, at least I had peace. Not sure about anyone else, lol
Bev

My mother claimed she took her pills. I sat slightly behind her in the doctor's office and shook my head no. I knew this because the bottle was 2/3 full when it should have been empty. The doctor, a geriatrician, was used to dealing with elders. Even if I hadn't been there she would not have taken Mother's word for it. She set up nurse visits to keep on top of pill situation. It turned out that when the pills were taken as directed, they worked! No need to change doses or find a different pill.

I'm not sure Mother was "lying" to the doctor. She did remember to take her pills once in a while, and she truly did not understand why she should take them when she didn't have symptoms. But her version of the truth was not helpful in keeping her well. Doctors need some way -- reports on refills, family reporting, something -- to help them determine effective treatments.

Bevpet, you're kidding, but I suppose not.

I was acting just like you. But my Mother's Mother came to me in a dream, she told me to stop taking sides. I did not even know I was taking sides against my mother with her Doctor, and the hospital staff. Life became a tad easier for me after taking this advice.

My Dad use to tell the doctor that he was taking his pills but the doctor knew differently.... in my area, everything is on computer, pharmacies are linked to doctor offices, hospitals, imaging centers, etc.... thus, the pharmacy *tattled* on Dad, saying he wasn't refilling his meds on a set basis, which means he wasn't taking his pills daily. Oops.

Either write this out in a letter to the doctor which you send certified mail with a return receipt or make an appointment to see the doctor without your parents and inform him/her of their behavior, making sure that it gets charted. My uncle refused to see doctors. He "allowed" my aunt to go. Whatever meds she got, he took half of them. As you might imagine, this was a nightmare for both the family and the doctor, but they worked it out somehow.

l hope it wasn't the Dr. who told you to shut up! ;-)

You can call your parents' Dr.'s office and tell them that your parents refuse to take their medication. You can't ask for any information regarding your parents because of HIPPA but you can report behavior to the office and they will note it in their charts.