Should we go into my brother and sister-in-laws home to live?

Look into senior housing in your mom's name, and try to find somewhere that has the option of assisted living in the future if required. Most senior places are ok with a second person if they are over 55.

i meant to say above the stairglide would be too big for their narrow steps. i am hoping the landlord dosen't raise the rent for the new year, i shall wait and see.

they have decided this would not be good for us to live. the stairwell is too big for the narrow stairs for starters. we make too much for section 8 hud housing with our ss and disability payments i get. i thank you for your answers. please keep them coming. i will let you know how this all goes.

It sounds like you are at the point of needing some financial assistance. Perhaps subsidized housing is a viable option. I found it useful to call the county Human Services department and ask for a needs assessment. They can help you learn what sort of assistance your mother (and maybe you) is eligible for.

No don't do it. Stairglides are too expensive . Go to the county office of the aging and ask for help or go up to Search Site and enter the zipcode for where you want to live and do a search.

I would say to look for other options for two reasons. First, the situation may not be the best for your mother. Second, you're 60 years old and need to look to a future for yourself. I wondered if you are working or what your personal source of income might be. That would be a huge consideration, since you are nearing retirement age. Since you are both financially strapped now, I imagine that it will be tougher in future years. Please let us know more about your situation.

I'm glad to know that there will not be 4 adults under one roof. That makes this idea sound more workable.

Is there any affordable senior housing in your area? I assume they would already be senior friendly. Is it going to cost a lot to fix up your brother's house that he is offering to rent to you and your mother? How does the rent you are paying now compare to the rent that your brother will charge you? Other than not being able to go up and down stairs, what other health issues does your mother have?

we will not be living with my brother and sisterinlaw. they have a house. they offered this one to us, but we willl need a few adjustments to go there. we don't know what to do

Having to make your brother's place more senior oriented by yourself does not sound very welcoming to me. How do they feel about your moving in with them? Was this their idea or yours?

A little more background on your situation will go a long way towards getting concrete ideas. Personally, I'd avoid moving into a place that would then have 4 adults! I can't imagine a scenario where that would work well. What about senior/low income housing? Affordable housing? Call social agencies in your county to see if they have any ideas.

Extended families cohabitation can work......in my opinion, only if that if the way everyone grew up. I'm know multigenerational families that get along, otherwise, it may not work. If your present landlord does not want you can ypu just move elsewhere and retain your autonomy.