Evil stepchildren, eh? Welcome the Social Worker with open arms. Then have your attorney send the ingrates a threatening letter telling them to cease and desist.
Helenann, from the tone of your post I'm guessing that you already have your suspicions about who might have made this malicious accusation. I'm further guessing that you were not backward in coming forward to tell your husband's family about your displeasure with them on the earlier occasion, and the steps you had taken as a result.
However. To the general reader, what matters about an accusation is less the motive for making it, and more the question of whether or not it is true.
I am very happy to assume that your treatment of your husband is first rate, with not a whiff of abuse about it. I certainly hope that is the case, of course. But it worries me that you say you "need to know" who made this accusation. I'm sure you would like to. But need to? Why, do you need to?
On the contrary. Having established that the accusation is utterly without foundation, what you now need to do is forget that it was made and get on with your life. If you have other concerns, for example about your husband's family, or about your working relationship with regulatory authorities or health professionals, then please don't feel discouraged from asking further questions and you will find that there are many people with helpful experience and expertise to share. But fretting about this vexatious, trouble-making claim? Rebut it and forget it. You have more important uses for your time.
It could be neighbor, concerned about YOUR health and ability to manage your husband's care. Do you need assistance? Respite? There is no shame in asking for help.
My elderly aunt cared for my uncle who had a variety of physical ailments, including some dementia. When one of her adult children came for a surprise visit, he found her battered and bruised; my sweet tempered uncle was regularly beating her in an attempt to secure y he keys to get outside, where he would wander, get lost and need to be retrieved by the police. She was finally convinced to get him to a wonderful memory care facility. Sadly, she died of a heart attack shortly after he was placed, almost certainly due to the stress of the previous years of caregiving. He lived for several more years, happy as a clam. If you need help, reach out for it!
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Then have your attorney send the ingrates a threatening letter telling them to cease and desist.
However. To the general reader, what matters about an accusation is less the motive for making it, and more the question of whether or not it is true.
I am very happy to assume that your treatment of your husband is first rate, with not a whiff of abuse about it. I certainly hope that is the case, of course. But it worries me that you say you "need to know" who made this accusation. I'm sure you would like to. But need to? Why, do you need to?
On the contrary. Having established that the accusation is utterly without foundation, what you now need to do is forget that it was made and get on with your life. If you have other concerns, for example about your husband's family, or about your working relationship with regulatory authorities or health professionals, then please don't feel discouraged from asking further questions and you will find that there are many people with helpful experience and expertise to share. But fretting about this vexatious, trouble-making claim? Rebut it and forget it. You have more important uses for your time.
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My elderly aunt cared for my uncle who had a variety of physical ailments, including some dementia. When one of her adult children came for a surprise visit, he found her battered and bruised; my sweet tempered uncle was regularly beating her in an attempt to secure y he keys to get outside, where he would wander, get lost and need to be retrieved by the police. She was finally convinced to get him to a wonderful memory care facility. Sadly, she died of a heart attack shortly after he was placed, almost certainly due to the stress of the previous years of caregiving. He lived for several more years, happy as a clam. If you need help, reach out for it!