How can I get my grandma to understand that she can't call me all day, everyday?

Veronica, I agree similar when it comes to food... my parents eat a lot of sweets, neither parent is overweight.... so I decided there is no need to go about changing their diets, as they are doing something right being 93 and going on 97 next week :)

I hate cigarettes, never been able to stand the smell of smoke. It does cause lung cancer and many other diseases. Won't stay in the same room with someone who is smoking. however at the end of life I certainly would not and have not deprived someone of the pleasure of smokimg. patients in a NH of course should be supervised, have a seperate lounge with extractor fans designated for this purpose or taken outside. Lots of people will disagree with me but residents of a nursing home are beyond the need to do everything that's 'good for them" I certainly would not allow them custody of cigarettes and lighters, no one wants the place to burn down. But it is important to remember this is their final home.

Cigarettes cause lung cancer, and second-hand smoke makes people who are around smokers sick. Don't buy granny cigarettes. They're not a nice little treat that old people deserve.

OmgWhatNow, I was reading some of your past postings, going back 2 years.... oh my gosh, here you are only in your 20's and you are dealing with elder care so early in your life. You need some big hugs {{hugs}}.

Just put the phone on vibrate. Tell Grandma you will call before you come over so she doesn't have to call you. Then do not answer the phone but do call her every day. She will get the idea.

Yours is not an unusual problem. Can you put the phone on vibrate and not answer it? But, I see she is then, using your minutes. I understand your frustration. My mother did the same thing to my sister. Mother can't hear now, so it has stopped. She is 95.

i think its wrong to deprive her of tobacco . i look at the aged faces at ednas nh and all i see is a wealth of wisdom and life experience . i wouldnt think of telling one of them what i think is best for them .

I don't have a home number, but I was thinking about the idea of just taking the cellphone so that she would HAVE to use the lanline. Thanks for your input, guys. By the way, the visit with her tonight went well. I like visiting her, I just wish she wouldn't call so much lmao

You might try deleting your number from her contact list! OR at least the cell, just leave your home number and you can see all the messages when you go home at night. I assume someone with her would know how to reach you if it were an emergency!

I think cellphones makes it too easy for an elder to keep calling, too easy to instant re-dial. The cell is probably in her lap or pocket. If she had a landline, she would need to keep walking over to the telephone and that might cut the number of calls. Just a thought.

My boss does the butt-dialing thing, so very annoying.

Thanks Ba8, but there's a whole other story behind that as to why she doesn't go yo a senior center yet

Is there adult day care that she can go to? Check out senior centers nearby.

Both actually. Half the time it isn't really anxiety as much as it is, "When you come over don't forget to pick up cigarettes". And i have to constantly remind her she cant have any. Not so much for her health, but the health of the person she's living with. But still, how anxiety ridden must one person be to call somebody nonstop throughout the day? Sometimes, she calls and I dont get an answer like she accedently butt-dialed me or something. Her calling me all the time is making me anxious!

Is this because she's anxious? Or because she's forgotten that she just talked to you?

Not without it costing me money. Have to run it by my husband first

Can you temporarily block her number? Some cell phones and carriers provide those features