My grandmother is in her late 70's. Widowed. She lives alone in an apt but cannot drive (no car and not physically able). She has to depend on family to grocery shop, run errands, etc. She must use a walker to walk. She cannot run or move quickly. She is in an apt complex for 55+ but stays in her apt all day and night watching tv. It is a production for her to go anywhere and she can't spend a lot of time out and about. She is diabetic. She is good at taking meds, having conversations, texting, cooking small meals (and paying mind to her diet). She watches church daily and shops Amazon. But will sometimes have to wait days for toilet paper, toothpaste, paper towels, milk, etc. Because she has to depend on someone to get these items.
But last night she fell. And was on the floor for 2 hours until an uncle could help her. She has Med-Alert type tag but it was not on her. I am so upset. I hate that she was on the floor.
She has 7 kids. No one seems to want to help her. Just bring her things. Which is great but it seems like they are ignoring the larger issue which is that she can't do a lot on her own.
Am I being unreasonable? My husband and I are worried for her.
She has a master's degree. She is such a smart, spirited woman. It breaks my heart to see her this way. I just feel she deserves much better.
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I would look into it and see if she is interested. It sounds like being alone may be dangerous for her and also quite lonely.
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Her "kids" are in their 40's and 50's. 7 of them! I am the oldest of all the grandkids and I am in my late 30's. My mom and aunt try to help but I know get very frustrated with her. But they do try. The other "kids"...well some help, some totally don't.
I'm sure it's denial. I try to bring things up but I'm ignored. Or I get yelled at. I got yelled at this morning. What do I know? I'm only in my late 30's! LOL.
For example, I suggested for Christmas, for folks to start giving her things like laundry detergent, toilet paper, cleaning supplies, freezer meals, etc. My aunt told me she doesn't want her home bound. She already is. She has no car. She has to depend on at least one person to go somewhere or get things done. She can take out trash and go to her mailbox right outside her door.
What is a POA?
I'm new to all this.