Put on Hospice due to COPD and emphysema. He's on 4 L O2 24/7. My dad was diagnosed with COPD 4 years ago at the age of 70. 5 weeks ago, his doctor ordered hospice to keep him comfortable. We are trying desperately to keep him at home (where he wants to be) with the help of RN's 2 times a week. No one will give me an idea of how long we have with him. I am not wishing for him to die, I want him forever, but I feel like I am living in a movie. Help.
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I had to have my mother placed in Hospice care, and all I was told that it could be days or even weeks before her "transitioning/death". So on that Wednesday afternoon of 10/9, she was moved to the hospice facility, and I thought to myself this was going to be torture as I too wanted my mother to live forever, and logically I knew that was not going to happen. And I dreaded the waiting......literally waiting for death...horrendous. So, that Wednesday night I could not sleep..... and as the hospice care facility was open 24 hours a day I went there at 1:00AM, brought up mom's favorite pillow and her radio she always listened to, and I sat with her for a couple of hours and talked to her even though she was comatose. I even opened up her eyes so maybe if she could see, she could see that I was there. I whispered in her ear that she was the best mom ever, and that yes I will see her again on the other side, just not too soon as there is still life to live, and I knew that she would want me to live it. And at 3:00AM I left and went home, and I told her that I would be back in the afternoon to see her.
At 10:00AM on 10/10, I got the call from the doctor that my mother passed away that morning.... I collapsed to the floor, and was also astonished that she was not even in hospice for one full day.
And right now, although I have no regrets in anything as I loved my mother dearly and took the very best care of her for the last years of her life, the greatest relief I have is that I had that last night visit with her and talked with her, shared with her. And I also feel that she knew it was okay to "let go", and I would be okay with her in my heart.
So, my friend, we really do not know when the end will come, so spend the time with them, make every single moment count because we truly do not know when that moment will be. God bless you and your family.
As said above there is no way of predicting the end but as things progress your RNs will see signs that indicate the end is getting closer.
as long as several family members are prepared to help there is no reason Dad can not be kept at home. If it becomes too much there are usually hospice beds available in local hospitals wher he can recieve the simple comfort care you are providing. just becaus he is in a hospital does not mean he will recieve agressive treatment if he is on hospice. Do make sure all the necessary paperwork is in order and you know his final wishes because things change very fast. your hospice social worker can help you with this. not a short answer to your question I am afraid because there isn't one. Blessings.
When someone goes on hospice it's not like pulling a trigger. Just because someone goes on hospice doesn't mean that death is imminent. He could last for months and months, no one knows.
I'm a nurse in home healthcare and I've had patients who were on hospice for months, I've also had patients who were on hospice for a few weeks, even a few days. My dad died a week after going on hospice and we thought he'd have much more time.
Don't let the term "hospice" get to you. Just because your dad's on hospice doesn't mean he's going to die right away. Some people are put on hospice then taken back off after 6 months or so. Each situation is different.