I placed my husband on Nov. 10. He's adapting well during the day but behaving poor at night. Any advice?

Jesus! Haldol!? That's totally excessive! Nursing homes kill the elderly every year with the oversaw of psch drugs every year. I was a Nursing home resident for 8yrs and finally got out. You need to ask what warrants such a strong drug, then ask to look at his medical record to corroborate what they're telling you. Is He even physically able to be combative enough to harm staff? You know just because He lives there now, doesn't mean they alone make all the decisions about his care.
I'm an advocate for ppl who live in Nursing homes. I teach resident's and their families what their rights are and what to do in situation's like this.
The only reason anybody, not just your husband, should be on haldol is if they are a danger to themselves and the community!

Titrating meds can take a while. Antidepressants take a month or more to be fully effective. Hang in there.

Haldol? Really? OMG. Can't they try less potent sleep aids first? Have they tried melatonin? (Probably not strong enough, but have they tried it?) Even seroquel, which is also a powerful drug, seems like a better choice, and given before bed it help prevent these episodes.

Do be his advocate and try to keep on top of what they are trying for nighttime remedies.

But also accept that he is were he needs to be. The professionals will work this out (with your input). That he is already doing well during the day is awesome. The night times will work out in time, too.

You did what you had to do. It is an adjustment for both of you. Accept my good wishes for your long-term success, even if the early days are rocky.

How does your husband behave at night that would warrant Haldol? Is he combative?

I think it's normal to have second thoughts when we place our loved one in a nursing home. When my dad went into a nursing home I would wake up, thinking that I heard him calling me as he so often did when he lived with me. I would wonder what he was doing, was he wondering where I was? Was he scared?

I also had a hard time giving up control over my dad. When my dad lived with me I knew everything that was going on and as long as I felt that I had that control things were fine. Once he went into a nursing home I felt very vulnerable. I began to come up with reasons why he shouldn't be in a nursing home when a month earlier I had a list of reasons why he should be in a nursing home!

I don't know that we can ever feel "good" about our loved ones being in a nursing home. But your husband's only been there for a couple of weeks. It takes time to get the kinks worked out and for everyone to get on a schedule. It's normal that he's on your mind all the time. Fight the urge to pull him out of there and wait and see how things go once your husband is settled and it's not so new anymore.

When my dad went into a NH I knew it would be an adjustment for him but I didn't anticipate it being such an adjustment for me.