My 65 yr old wife suffered non-convulsive epileptic seizures and is now mentally impaired and in a skilled nursing facility. Half the time she doesn't know where she is or what's going on. She gets agitated and seems to hurt with the least touches and hasn't been eating so that she is very debilitated necessitating a PEG feeding tube to stabilize her weight. The nurses there say that she is slowly declining with the best that they can do and her mental state is not improving.
I've already signed a DNR but asked that feeding tube and IV s be used used in conjunction with comfort measures.
The question is would she want to continue with no quality of life?
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Thank you all for your support.
I will continue to monitor this board.
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My dread is that she will linger until Christmas and my son has already had his birth-mother AND birth grandmother die right around this time.
There's no point in waiting other than selfishly wanting it to happen AFTER the holiday so we start now and everyone says about 5 days.
Thank you all for your help and support.
As time passes, remember your life journey continues and you carry on for both of you.
Come back here for support and I hope you will join a grief support group. They can be so helpful. They probably have one at the NH now that you can go to even while your loved one is still alive to support you thru these last days.
The seizures have caused so much damage that there's no hope, no awareness, no recognition.
For us it's now just so clear that my question has answered itself.
Pam, Bababou, thank you. Everyone else as well.