How to move Mom from one care home to the next smoothly?

Cmagnum: none of the seniors in this ALF can walk. All are in diapers.
I canceled the move. Lost 1/2 of my 2600. Deposit but oh well. Mom wants to stay. I will just keep driving the distance. Thxs all

I did not know that ALF took people who cannot walk and incontinent. I guess your profile is wrong that her main problem is alzheimer's / dementia.

I tend to agree with Pam.

Loose the guilt over this. You have done nothing wrong. You are being a good daughter by making sure that your mother is safe and taken care of and you are being a responsible adult by taking care of yourself and your own life. Prayers, Love and Hugs

Thanks. Mom is 45 min away. She does not have dimentia. She has spinal injury making her unable to walk, and lose her bowels. Mild confusion starting to appear. So I'm moving her to ALF 10 mins from me so I can see her more often. I'm all she has. I'm full of guilt that she is there and not home.

If she is happy and settled in where she is, let it be. Moving is very tough on them, they get very confused and emotional. Often anxiety meds are given for a week or two. Better care is often like chasing the wind, because the families feel "guilty" and displace that guilt by finding fault with every care giver. No matter how many times they move mom, they find problems.
Mom complained about food. The ALF said they don't have any food committees, corporate policy. Did I move Mom? Nope. Instead I quoted the state law, chapter and section, that requires adult care homes to have food committees. Problem solved, not just for one patient, but for 80 of them.

If assisted living kicks your mom out, they should inform you like a month before. Then, you will need to move her to a nursing home. Please don't quit your work for that is a downward path which you do not want to go down. Start looking now for a nursing home for your mother to move in to.

Also, I think her house need to be sold and the income used to pay for her care.