I'm really upset and sick and mom is driving me crazy now new habit undressing. I want to scream I feel so worthless and hopeless her home I have lived over 15n years only family left is her and I my nAME IS NOT ON HER HOUSE I have used her money for caregiving expensesd and also some topay my bills due to not working taking care of her she is not on Medicaid I seem to not be able to get help just went thru ;last of her money now dipped into her and my life insurance this is so frustrating Im ready to go out in streets with a sign asking for help but this new thing undressing I just cant handle really cannot handle much agter 14years im done I cannot even find my own self lost and advice
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I totally understand what your going thru as I'm going thru the same situation with my mother. I moved here in Arizona in 2010 due to my mom had a Blood Glog stroke and since none of my siblings we're willing to take the responsibility i did cause I didn't want her in a home cause she really didn't adapt being in the rehab for few weeks ...Anyway I apply for I home care for my mom which I got some kind of income it's not much but it's something to help out, I'm sure you can look into doing in home for your mom every State benefits are different so I suggest you call or ask doctor they can referred you a agency ok...
My mom didn't want to wear her night gown too and plus my mom have dementia and with the stroke her brain ain't functioning anymore so she takes her diaper off and stuff so what I did I got her some jump suits for seniors with a zipper in the back so she won't be able to unzip it and ohhhh goshhh it helps me a lot ...my mothers doctor help me with getting my benefit for doing in home for my mom I'm sure we're ever you lived they have that benefit for you since your taking care of your mother just like me, I can't work or do anything cause I have to care for me mother 24/7 ...I know it's hard what we're all going thru but I take it as its my time to give back to my mother in what ever way I can and I do count it as a blessing for me to have this time with her cause once she's gone I can't replace my mother..I pray your situation will get better a God gives you the strength and patience to resolved those issues..Happy Holidays to you and your mom.
God Bless...
Leah...
I am just surviving every day, I rejoined my YMCA, I'm working out every day, swimming, biking, running, seeing my friends, getting fit again. This poor old people are a huge burden, no one wants them around, this is the truth. Yes, they are our mothers and fathers but it's not fair that we have to give up our lives and life savings to care for someone who is totally oblivious to anything around them, they have no joy anymore, they give no joy either. All I'm doing is keeping this poor old woman alive, who is in pain from falls, who can't even eat a good stake or enjoy an ice cream, she has no teeth anymore, she just sits in her chair or her bed, watching cartoons and sleeping. She is 91, she has dementia, she suffered all her life at the hands of her so called husband, unfortunately he is my biological father, and now she is still suffering, and making me suffer as well.
Forgive me for saying this, please, PLEASE get the help you need, do it NOW!! before you fall into a depression. I hope also you seek the help of your family, her family, her brothers or sisters, aunts, uncles, etc. Don't delay, find a nursing home that will take her Medicaid, or whatever Government help she is entitled to. Best of luck to you, and I hope you treat yourself to something nice for Christmas.
You are in over your head and your mom needs professional around the clock care and you need to go back into the world and search for your own sanity. God bless you.
The undressing seems to be regrettably common in dementia. My mother does it to "save time." ?!?!? What time do you save by trying to get to the bathroom with your knickers already round your ankles? But your mother's not doing it to play tricks on you. In her disordered mind, at that moment, she thinks it's what she needs to do. Clothes that she can't undo easily are the obvious answer, but it depends how much say you have over what she puts on.
Please come back and post again. There will be answers, you will be okay. Hugs to you.
Caregiving can drain us financially and emotionally. After 14 years, I have the feeling that you will need some help re-training for a career and getting back to work. You have to do this for yourself. Talk to your local Human Services department and tell them your situation. Depending on where you live, there may be services available to you. Are you on Medicaid or Medicare? That would be a good starting point. Counseling may help a lot. Many counties will have programs that will help you get back to work. Ask about those programs and see if you can get some help restarting your career. I don't envy you this task, but I know you can do it.
I don't know how your using your mother's money to pay your bills will affect her eligibility for Medicaid. There is only one way to find out -- apply and try to find her the best facility you can. You need to do this for yourself. Soon she will not be around to pay the bills, so you have to be able to do it. My hope and prayers are with you. Hugs.