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weeder Asked December 2014

My husband pees in bed almost every night and wets everything, sheets, comforter, etc. Any advice?

We have used almost every product on the market. He must be leaking from the side. We have even put on 2 pull ups. Does anyone know of any other way to stop him leaking from the side. We don't mind having wet pull ups but when everything is wet in the morning it is so frustrating - washing everyday the sheets, comforter, etc.

StayingDry May 2017
I wet the bed myself and here is what I learned. First off ditch the pull up for bed time. They are not that good if you are a heavy wetter like me. Then try a tape style diaper or as they call it brief. Then ditch the regular store brands. Many pharmacys can order these two products or go to a medical supply store. Try tranyility atn or tena super. Make sure they are the an or super depending on the brand as they hold much more. Now if this doesn't work there are two other better brands but you would need to order them online. One is moli care super plus. But my favorite is Abena abri form level 4. Search abena and his size with a 4 after and you will find these. For example I wear a large diaper and I would search Google abena L4 and a lot of places pop up to buy them. These are my favorite. There are boosters you can add that fluid flows through. Those help. My night diapers are an abena L4 and a booster. I don't leak any more. Now these are expensive and I had to argue with insurance to cover part of the cost. My other option is a cloth diaper and plastic pants. I use those sometimes also and never leak as I adjust them to my needs. You need to look harder online to find this. Garys plastic pants are good. I bought diaper fabric at a local store and had a local seamstress cut and make flat diapers for me. Not cheap up front but cheaper in the long run. I would try different products slowly going up in quality until you find what works for him. Store brands are just not the answer for many.

Reverseroles Jan 2015
I mistakenly said tranquility at night, its actually Tena 2x (the tab diapers, nice an huge so easier to get on her while rolling and sitting her in wchair) that I use for Mom with a tranquility booster pad with adhesive strip, all from amazon. Between the both of them, she goes 12+ hours without wetting thru and never had a bedsore.

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oldestboy Jan 2015
See a urologist who has experience with geriatric patients. Urinary incontinence is not a normal ageing process. There are many possible causes and just as many potential treatments. Don't give up!

Reverseroles Jan 2015
I know, cant find anything for women thou :(

sherry1anne Jan 2015
Wow I never heard of a condom catheter. How convenient without the risk. What'll they think of next?

Reverseroles Jan 2015
I also only use Tranquility briefs at night from amazon but I add a tranquility booster to it. Men are easy from what I read, they have attachable catheters that arent invasive. Do they have anything for women like that???????

I2understand Dec 2014
you can use a condom catheter if you choose one less chance for infection

ProfessionalRN Dec 2014
Put a texas catheter on him. This then drains in to a catheter bag. Then put the heavy pads that you wash they come in large.

sherry1anne Dec 2014
I agree with samara. If your husband is able to urinate on his own, catheterization is simply a convenience item for the caregiver. If he need it for health reasons, he needs it. My son was incontinent at night until he left home at age 18 to go to college. I can identify with the plight of the caregiver. I washed the entire bed every morning and worked full time as well. When he got old enough, he washed it himself. Back then there were no Depends etc. There are many other products that are available these days. There are disposable bed pads that you can put under him. I used puppy pee pads when my step son came home from the hospital from surgery and had a bad drainage. These work. They are absorbent on one side and have a plastic backing.

I2understand Dec 2014
catheters aren't a good idea because they can get a lot of infections and they hurt badly. stop or limit liquid three to four hours before bedtimes works. treat and talk to your husband the way you would want to be talked to about it. ask if he wants depends or the thicker underwear with the bladder inserts. put a cream on he skin before he goes to sleep because his skin can break down easily. if your money is low go to savers, goodwill or a thrift stores you can get pad for the bed, underwear and and bedding for pennies (we got depends for a dollar on dollar day or just for two to four dollar on any day). good lucky to you.

buddylab Dec 2014
I bought some washable pads from Freds for 10.00 each and they work wonderful and are very large. Beats washing sheets every night

vja1951 Dec 2014
Get some washable bed pads. It will save you from washing sheets every day. As far as what is covering him, sheets, etc. You might want to cover him with a washable bed pad.

Momcare8223 Dec 2014
There are special products for men to put inside the 'Depend' in the front area. I never rely on the brief by itself for my mother, we use an overnight maxi pad inside the brief and it really holds a lot. "Whatever gets you through the night" is all right!!

samara Dec 2014
My mom wears Depends and at night she also sticks a booster pad inside the Dpends. It is like a huge, wide, long Maxi-pad. For men maybe they have to position it differently but sometimes an additional amount of absorbent pad, can help. I wouldn't wish catheterization on anyone. Avoid!

judypanama Dec 2014
The only diapers I have found that last through the night and don't leak are Tranquility Premium Overnight Absorbent Underwear. They even keep the person dry so they are not lying in pee. The cheapest I have found them are at Amazon, about $30 cheaper than other suppliers.

Anniegoonie Dec 2014
My husband has condom catheters as well...slip it on him before he goes to bed, it's great.

ktrolson Dec 2014
The Texas or condom cath may be a great solution. If he can't or won't wear it then you are stuck with products. putting a second diaper on is usually not much help since the first one is waterproof where it contacts the second and the extra goes out the side. You need a diaper "doubler pad" to add capacity to your diaper. This allows fluid to pass through after it is full and both the diaper and the pad are maximally utilized. Maybe you've tried one but they come in up to 32 oz capacity and you could try a bigger capacity. Go to a medical supply store and discuss with a knowledgeable person. I'm a nurse and didn't know all this but had to learn it real quick.My supplier gives out free samples.

vstefans Dec 2014
Texas cath maybe..but also do you know what is medical or other reason for the maor excess fluid output is?

Rosebush Dec 2014
When my mom finally started sleeping through the night, i was not touching her, but when we sat her up on the side of the bed, the depends leaked. I used a washable pad on top of the sheet and under the draw sheet . Some days I only had to change the draw sheet and the pad was still dry. I would put an overnight pad and a depends on my mom each night. As mentioned above, the correct size depend is really important. The doctor told me that the bladder relaxes at night and that was reason my mom would want to get up and go to bathroom 5 or 6 times each night. After seeing a urologist, mom was diagnosed with over active bladder. We tried about 5 different medicines before one worked. May not apply to your situation but just thought I would share.

lindaz Dec 2014
Are the depends you are using on him the right size? The reason I ask is that the ones I have had experience with are usually tight on the legs so there should be no leaks...is it possible that he is pulling them down while he is sleeping? Some people with dementia do do that as they can be uncomfortable if the fit is not right.

freqflyer Dec 2014
Weeder, what does your husband's doctor have to say regarding this situation? There should be some type of medicine that would help. Try limiting fluids after 7pm if there isn't a health issue that would prevent you from doing that.

pamstegma Dec 2014
Time for a catheter.

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