My mother is a diebetic and her daughter tells her to eat what ever. I've been taking care of Mother and working 20 hours a day but siblings is no help they don't want me to hire some one 4 hours a day to bath and companionship. They can't wanting to save the money for inheritence any suggestions on how I can protect my self so they don't make false accusations against me? Also my Mother is 88 years on on O2, Dieabetic, Incontenence stool as well as urine daily, and previous fractured hip. They get mad when I buy good food and hire some one for her to talk to. They wanted me to put her in her bedroom when she came home from the nursing home I set her up in her living room with all the convenence. She Has a daughter across the street that comes over for about a hour once a week and just complaines. Any suggestins would help should I get a lawyer for reference later. Thanks for your help.
5 Answers
Helpful Newest
First Oldest
First
Also agree with the key question: who's got POA, and/so who's in charge of the money? If someone else has and is doing nothing to help your mother, that person has some explaining to do. If you have, then you make the decisions and they can go… think what they like.
ADVERTISEMENT
Yes, you should see a lawyer who specializes in Elder Law, for your current situation as well as for future reference.
And you should call your Office of Aging.
If your siblings don't like the way you take care of Mother, perhaps they would be more satisfied with a care center. Oh wait, that would cost money, wouldn't it? So they probably wouldn't like that, either.
Are you doing this caregiving in exchange for just room and board, or are you also being paid? How are you going to afford your own retirement years?
See an elder law attorney.
Given your mom's medical and care needs, she would certainly benefit from being in a care center.