What's a good to do list? I have moments of feeling overwhelmed - I cannot do it all.

Instead of a Things to do on Wednesday list, just have a Things to Do list. You can update it each night, if you like, but given the necessity of flexibility don't put pressure on yourself to meet a deadline for each and every task.

I find that lists really help me focus on priorities and give me a sense of accomplishment when I can cross things off. They are a handy tool. They are not a master.

Lists can also help me see patterns. Sometimes I have looked at a to do list and thought, Wow, there is not one single fun thing on this list! That can be an eye-opener.

I started one as a word document on my computer, that way I can add to it as my care receiver continues to decline. I print off the most updated one and put it on the fridge under a magnet. It only covers what I need to do for the care receiver. It starts with morning routine: 1) Ensure clean pair of underwear is on, 2) Ensure all pills are taken (Ensure none on the floor), 3) Ensure hearing aids are in, working, and on correct setting. 4) Apply/or have care receiver apply lotion to skin. 5) Ensure dentures are in and straight. etc, I think you get the point ;-) I also have a checklist for what to bring for trips out of the house. 1) Depends, 2) gait belt, 3) walker, 4) deck of cards, etc. So at this point is kind of a routine, where before my care receiver and I leave the house to face the day...I go through her checklist. At the very least she is set for the day...I of course will usually forget one of the things that I needed to take along to ensure I am ready for the day. =)

no one can do it all. A list is ok, but you have to be flexible. I took on way too much with a full time job, caring for my Mother, helping with the grandkids. I finally took a breath and had to let go of some of it or crash. I am fortunate because I can cut back on work hours and am now learning how to say no and how to start over at 59 years old!
Take a little time out for you. Good Luck!

Be realistic that things will come up that will probably keep the list from being complete in one day, but optimistic that a good amount of it will get done and thankful that you have the next day to keep working on it. Otherwise you will put yourself on a never ending guilt trip by expecting far too much of yourself because interruptions happens. You want fail, it just might take longer to get the list done.