My husband diagnosed with neuroendocrine tumor primary in GI tract and mets to liver on liver biopsy 11/10/2014. Stage 4 high grade. He tried a three day course of cisplatin week of Thanksgiving and doesn't want to go through any additional rounds. He's in hospice with off-duty nursing at home. In the last week he has become combative, disoriented, and anxious most of the time. He keeps insisting he wants to go home and said our house isn't his home. He seems to be living in the past. When I walk into the room he becomes verbally abusive and if I go near him he becomes physically abusive stating I won't let him leave to go home. To put the "cherry on top" he is bipolar which the depression phase manifests in incredible anger. He's still on bipolar meds but obviously with declining liver function they aren't processing efficiently. Any suggestions or guidance?
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Hope you are doing well. Thanks for the laugh. Don't know if you read this but my mom tried eating a christmas ornament. I turned to get a juice, and when I looked at her this piece of green velvet was hanging out of he mouth. I pulled on it until the xmas bell popped out.. Just like KIDS....
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your post jogged my memory . i was reading some one liner quips from comics online last night and one comic said that at the age of 69 yrs old her mother started walking 5 miles a day and now we have no idea where the h*ll shes at ..
sorry to be insincere on your thread georgia 15 . in spite of your devastating developments at home dont forget to find something to laugh at anywhere you can .
I agree with captain that talking to the hospice nurse about this specific topic might be helpful to you. Also ask about meds for the increased anxiety he is experiencing.
My heart goes out to you. It is extremely sad and stressful and traumatic to be losing your husband. To have him argumentative or abusive has got to be almost beyond endurance. Do keep in mind that it is his disabilities -- his pain, his mental instability, his live failure -- that drive his irrational behavior. It isn't the "real" husband who is behaving this way, it is the disease. It isn't really a personal attack against you, so try very hard not to take it personally.
Also acknowledge that you are in mourning yourself, for very real losses. Grief makes us fragile emotionally. It is OK to have periods of weakness and bouts of crying. Later you will have condolence cards and flowers and casseroles from friends. Now you have to go through this more privately. If you have a close friend or relative to confide in, that can help. Also that is a good role for the hospice nurse or social worker. They do understand what you are going through.
You can do this.
sorry to hear about this struggle for you and your husband .