I usually don't read the questions if I don't think I can be helpful in any way. I know that each person coming in is introducing themselves with a question they are pondering. I would say it is best to be welcoming, since we know what each other is facing. I am thankful that there are people on the group who are willing to give serious answers to the financial questions. When it comes to Medicaid, I am always glad to see Igloo's name. She is a rare jewel.
The only thing that I get tired of is seeing some of the snippish responses that people give. A couple of people are really bad to be rude and I've wondered why they are even with the group except to show their butt at least once a day. If their aim is to drive off new members, it probably works. Some might think that certain posters need a good swift kick, but I think that if we don't have something helpful to say we should just keep our hands in our lap and not on the keys.
Another thing that bothers me is when I see someone who has painted themselves in a corner refuse to do anything about getting out of the corner. I don't usually respond whenever I read, since I know my words wouldn't be helpful. I realize that some people are most comfortable when they are in the corner.
When I came in, I didn't use search. I think my first post I came in complaining about something. I still do, though I'm not as angry. Since I came in, I notice that other people have the same situation. It is like we are sisters and brothers from different mothers.
Not really. Sometimes you are so overwhelmed you dont know where to start. My mom died six months ago but i still seek support of this group. It has been a Godsend! I do wish they would put a big banner at the very beginning that says "NOONE IS GOING TO PAY YOU FOR CAREGIVING."
What I find disheartening is when someone post a simple question, and then we ask for more information.... then that information turns into a short novel... then as more answers appear, the story line gets larger and larger going off in a half dozen different directions, and there are so many holes in the story you don't know what to believe anymore.... and at the end of it all you feel like you've been had by someone who was bored and wanted attention. I could have been using that time to help someone who was legit. Some times I see the same writing style, same pattern as to answering us back, but a new screen name. Some story lines have been quite entertaining :)
One thing I really wish one would do when posting is to break the post into separate paragraphs. Maybe it is just me, but I find one very long post with no breaks hard to read and can lose my place. Guess it depends on what device one is using to type, maybe it won't allow paragraph breaks. I was surprised the other day when someone said that the "search site" near the top of the page doesn't show up on their device.
No, Pinky. I don't. Because when I came here, I asked questions that I'm sure had been answered a thousand times before! I think most of us don't find the exact answer to our question when we search the site and have specifics that we want to get answered.
Regarding the short, terse answers. I've just put it down to iPhones. If you are tapping out a question or answer on a TINY keyboard, you'll naturally use as few keystrokes as possible. If, like me, you are sitting here with a laptop, you tend to type a more wordy response. I tend to be wordy and that's sometimes as bad as being short and to the point.
Since there is no edit function, I wish everyone would take that extra minute and re-read what they wrote to see if it makes sense. You know what you mean to say and what the facts are - but no one else does. Sometimes just a little more information is key.
I think any question deserves attention, even when there is no cut and dried solution.
I've been on this site several years. (I've posted 10,000+ times.) I seldom see a completely new question any more.
It does not bother me to see the same questions over and over. It doesn't even bother me to answer them over and over, if I have something to contribute.
If repeat questions start to bother you, maybe it is time to take a break from the site, or to find a different discussion board.
No. I think that some people don't see the search site box to look up possible answers and find it easier to just post the question. When I don't have an idea how to answer, I will often use the search site feature to look up articles and threads on a subject and paste the links for the person to look up. What I do tire of is the few who seem to be playing games online. They are hard to spot at first, but after a while things become questionable. The other thing that bothers is when someone will create 2 or 3 threads with the very same question.
I love this place as it has really helped me. I've learned so much here.
I try to be sensitive to new questions, because those posters are normally, like I was, stressed out, scared, and overwhelmed. It's a lot to expect them to come here, get familiar with the site and research their issues. So, I understand why we see so many duplicate questions. It's probably out of desperation.
What frustrates me is that there are some issues that I just don't have any advice on, because I haven't encountered it. I know some things, but outside of that, I'm afraid I have no advice. So, when the post doesn't get any response after a day, I feel bad for them.
I've posted question that got only one or two responses and I figure no one knows what to tell me. Then I see some posts that get 30 responses in one day! It's difficult to figure. I just try to respond to make sure everyone feels welcome and cared for.
I don't mind. When I first posted I now realize I was not just looking for answers I was looking for connection. Each answer was a light in the dark, a person who cared and understood. That means so much.
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The only thing that I get tired of is seeing some of the snippish responses that people give. A couple of people are really bad to be rude and I've wondered why they are even with the group except to show their butt at least once a day. If their aim is to drive off new members, it probably works. Some might think that certain posters need a good swift kick, but I think that if we don't have something helpful to say we should just keep our hands in our lap and not on the keys.
Another thing that bothers me is when I see someone who has painted themselves in a corner refuse to do anything about getting out of the corner. I don't usually respond whenever I read, since I know my words wouldn't be helpful. I realize that some people are most comfortable when they are in the corner.
When I came in, I didn't use search. I think my first post I came in complaining about something. I still do, though I'm not as angry. Since I came in, I notice that other people have the same situation. It is like we are sisters and brothers from different mothers.
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One thing I really wish one would do when posting is to break the post into separate paragraphs. Maybe it is just me, but I find one very long post with no breaks hard to read and can lose my place. Guess it depends on what device one is using to type, maybe it won't allow paragraph breaks. I was surprised the other day when someone said that the "search site" near the top of the page doesn't show up on their device.
Since there is no edit function, I wish everyone would take that extra minute and re-read what they wrote to see if it makes sense. You know what you mean to say and what the facts are - but no one else does. Sometimes just a little more information is key.
I think any question deserves attention, even when there is no cut and dried solution.
It does not bother me to see the same questions over and over. It doesn't even bother me to answer them over and over, if I have something to contribute.
If repeat questions start to bother you, maybe it is time to take a break from the site, or to find a different discussion board.
I try to be sensitive to new questions, because those posters are normally, like I was, stressed out, scared, and overwhelmed. It's a lot to expect them to come here, get familiar with the site and research their issues. So, I understand why we see so many duplicate questions. It's probably out of desperation.
What frustrates me is that there are some issues that I just don't have any advice on, because I haven't encountered it. I know some things, but outside of that, I'm afraid I have no advice. So, when the post doesn't get any response after a day, I feel bad for them.
I've posted question that got only one or two responses and I figure no one knows what to tell me. Then I see some posts that get 30 responses in one day! It's difficult to figure. I just try to respond to make sure everyone feels welcome and cared for.
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