So one of the caregivers needs a place to live with her two children he keeps telling me she's going to live there for free and take care of him he's 89 years old can't walk , catheter keeps going hospital for pneumonia this person is not going to give up her whole 24 hours a day to take care of him the place he's in now is fantastic she has lots of workers he has his own room it's a beautiful house with a dog he loves I am daughter p.o.a I do alot as it is everyday to help him but I'm not going to change catheter and diaper s I guess I should talk to this girl
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To your dad, I would say "Schedule your own home repairs. You have a phone. You know more people than I do."
I agree with others on how to deal with the woman.
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Hopefully it won't come to that, hopefully it's just wishful thinking on your Dads part.
I notice you live up north, has the house been winterized to keep the water pipes from bursting? Is someone shoveling the walkway/driveway so that the house doesn't look vacant? Vacant homes need an extra house insurance rider that says that the house is vacant, thus higher insurance cost. What needs to be fixed at this house? Does your Dad have extra funds to remodel?
One should never ever allow someone who is not family to move into their home rent free. Right now she has 2 children who would move in with her, you never know if she has other family that would also want to move in after the fact [not saying it would happen].
How would your Dad cope having a pre-schooler and high schooler living with him in his home? It could become a bit noisy. Would the caregiver give up her job to care for your Dad full-time? Will your Dad pay for their groceries [groceries for 4 people], as I assume she will be cooking for him.
Plus your Dad would need to up his home owner insurance to include a couple of "umbrella" policies that would help in case this caregiver and/or one of her children get hurt while in his home and on his property.
When mom was briefly in memory care, she needed one to one care for a while. One aide was quite aggressive in finding out if mom had a house and told her that she was a fool to be paying for mc and an aide too. She the aide would do it better and cheaper. Needless to say, we had her removed.