My wife had a stroke last year in July now dementia. I'm worried, what would happen to her when I'm gone?

I'm in agreement with freqflyer. If you are concerned that she will outlive you, even with her health issues, then I would move with her to an assisted living facility. I have seen them where you could stay together in the same room/apt. and you could continue to care for her, but also have some help. You have fought the good fight. After all this time, it's time to let someone help you with her. Do you have children? If so, ask for their help finding someplace to live and getting the finances in order to do so. Good luck.

Walt, if she is the social type, look into Assisted Living for her. I'm not saying move her now, but have a plan in place for when the day comes. You will sleep better at night with arrangements in place.

Why not move to independent living, that way you can make friends with the other residents and staff in the building.... and they can watch out for both of you. And if anything happens to you, they could check in on your wife until she is moved to assistant living or a nursing facility.

Check with an Elder Law attorney to see what type of paperwork you would need for this to happen, and the attorney could be your wife's Power of Attorney and see to her future needs.

She should not be having low blood sugar spikes at night - it sounds like she needs a review of her insulin. A nursing home is going to have regular eating times plus their nurse will check blood sugars as often as the doc orders, ensuring that she is ok.

So financially she will be fine, but if you were to pass in the night, she would not remember to take her insulin and she would not know to call someone. Those items right there tell me she needs to be somewhere she will always be protected as you are doing right now.

we have several life insurances on me so if i past away she will be taken care of. the only thing wrong with that is she will be by herself and she can't remember anything after 5 min of hearing it. I am doing up a will with my requests for her health care. i think i need talk to the health dept here in texas and see what would happen if i wasn't around. Putting her in a home now i don't know i could do that she can go with days and nothing wrong. i just don't know

Do you have the finances for 24/7 home care, or how about a nursing home? If you were to use a nursing home, you could concentrate on loving her during the day instead of caring for her. If you don't sleep much at night, from what I understand you shorten your own lifespan. Sleeping would mean that you would be around longer for her. My neighbor had to put his dear wife in a close by home for the same reasons. He went over every morning and helped get her up and fed, and came home in the evenings. His was a beautiful marriage.