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anonymous275053 Asked April 2015

Should our loved ones be told they have Alzheimer's?

Hi all Caregiver's. I'm caring for my Mum (86) who has Alzheimer's. I know for sure if I had a life threatening illness I would want to know. When a sufferer is made aware of their condition, they can prepare for the end of life. I never lied to My Mother in My life, now telling Her lies all the time, eg gosh Mammy You look amazing for 86. Mum has said that She hasn't long more to live...and I say in reply, ah now Youl make the 100 no bother. Though Im just trying to give Mom a lift, by telling these lies, I feel terrible guilty. I love to get Your opinions on this.

ShirleyB Apr 2015
I think of what you call "lies" as fiblets. I'll say whatever it takes to keep my husband calm and happy. He has AZ and I can't ever see a reason to be brutally honest with him if it upsets him or makes him sad. He would only be sad or upset for a very few minutes and then he's forgotten all about it. But I can't see any reason to do it anyway.

anonymous275053 Apr 2015
Thank You freqflyer for Your very helpful answer. It's a definite NO, and this is a great help to Me since this issue was bothering Me for quiet a while. Thank God for this Aging Care.Com Site, which creates interaction between all of Us Caregivers.

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freqflyer Apr 2015
When it comes to illnesses that are Dementia/Alzheimer's related, I personally wouldn't tell the patient.... as one could live for 10-15 more years with such conditions. Elders have heard about dementia and Alzheimer's and they could become terrified of the fact that they have this illness.

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