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Duckie11 Asked April 2015

How can I get Mom proven incompetent?

My Mom has become very incompetent. My sister is using this and taking everything money etc. I have worked with local Elder Abuse for over a year and they have done nothing just saying mom is ok with things. Last week sister paid a lady to sit with her and even take her to heart dr which my other sister have no knowledge of any issues. Now I learn from this person on the street mom is going to need surgery but the sister stealing mom blind refuses to allow us other sisters to know anything. The trouble making sister has her credit cards, debit cards, checkbook and just got back from 2 wks vacation in Florida. What in the world am I ever to do. It was in writing I was not allowed to look cross eyed at my mother or show up at the house I was to be thrown off the property ?????

Duckie11 Apr 2015
My other sister has POA but the evil one does not allow us around and prevents us from knowing anything Yes, she has admitted to using debit cards and checks being written for unknown reason. Yes I have talked to police over the drug dealings this person does and otherwise they view this as a civil matter. Police were called and told I had to be removed for mom's protection. HAHA accused me f shoving mom. I'm a few yrs older than 60 and never shoved my mother in my life. Just simply the way mom talks, her unusal words, her reversal of her normal feelings, making ridiculous statements, like my 20 yr veteran son doesn't know what he is talking about when he said there was a shotgun shell in the chamber of a gun.She accuses me of spending all my money at a casino. I haven't been to one since I took her about 6 yrss ago. Accused me of blowing all my husbands inheritance. Sorry folks no inheritance there. No I have not been allowed to see her in 7 months, according to the sister, she the sister must protect mom. I ask mom about it, she claims the last time, I never said that. they're saying that.

jeannegibbs Apr 2015
Were you thrown off the property? What was that about?

Does someone have Power of Attorney? Guardianship? Medical Power of Attorney?

How do you know that your mother has become incompetent? If you can't show up at the house, do you see her often? If you get your mother declared incompetent (which is done by a court, on advice from physicians) what do you intend to do?

Do you have evidence that your sister is stealing? Did you present the evidence to Elder Abuse? Is the evidence clear enough to present to the police?

I am sincerely sorry that there is conflict among you siblings. That always adds stress to an already stressful situation. Please provide a little more background information so we can respond to your specific situation.

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