My husband has dementia. At this point he has decided to pee on the carpet and I cannot handle this. Advice?

My fad had slight dementia prior to hernia surgery about 4 years ago. He seemed to decline mentally after the surgery . I've since read articles on this site about the effects of anesthesia on the elderly.ncan you have him examined by a geriatric doc? There may be some meds out there thatcan help. But it does sound like it's time to find a facility for him. My dad is still at home with mom but it won't be long before his is going to need to be in a memory care facility and I'll have to pull every trick in the book to get him to go.

Thank you for all the answers. I never knew that things like this were part of dementia. He rarely talks except for yes & no which never mean what he is saying at the time. He is 72 and went in for shoulder surgery last March (2014) and came out like this. I am over whelmed at how fast it has went let alone not coming out of surgery normal. Thanks again I will check into your suggestion.

adajaha, so sorry to read about what your husband is doing because of his dementia. Curious, is he peeing on the carpet in the same place each time? If so, place a washable throw rug or even a cat little box with litter. Put plastic liners in the trash can around the house. Hopefully this is a phase with the peeing and that he will re-direct to something else.

As for the light bulbs and turn switches, you just need to keep an eye on him like you would a busy toddler.

Well this is about the time to look into care for him, before you need it for yourself.

Do you have older kids and or other family who can help out, or give you a break? Local churches or senior citizen groups in your area. You may want to try adult day care for him....Salvation Army has one near us... City hall, librry for info.

my brother had a rare brain disease, with symtoms similar to this. He just past in February. He took the satellite dish off, dismantled everything possible. He was finally put into a nursing home. He was too young for it, but mentally.......

At this Point, I suggest you talk to Hospice, and have them decide if he needs more help. I can't say enough about Hospice, they are full of information, and you are not alone......

You can ask your doctor for help, and he may add more pills to the mix but your husband's condition is going to take the same route as my Mom. Mom has ALZ. Does he recognize you? Can he talk? Does he make sense when he talks?

My brothe was 58 years old dwhen he passed. My mom is 87 and she has a couple of lucid moments when she may be able to say "ok". She is in a board and care. 6 pack, near my home, I can pop in anytime I want to make sure she is ok. They give her 3 meals a day, clean, bath her, change her diapers, etc. She was just released off hospice, as they say she has stabalized. Not getting worrse, and not getting better. She was on it for a year...They were very helpful. So, Call hospice, and his doctor...Start there, and look at articles on this site. Very hellpful place to look.