My husband served 20 years in the Air Force and died on Oct 9, 2014. I do not receive anything from the military in compensation. Why?

We could not afford to take out the military insurance. We only made enough money to keep our family together, even with me working all through our marriage. We have 2 children, now grown. Why is there no help at all for wives that were with their husbands for 60 years, 20 in the Air Force. I also acted as caregiver for my husband for 4 years when he was suffering with cancer. I think a lot of that came from smoking. I remember the tobacco companies being there on pay day handing out free cigarettes to military personnel to keep them addicted to smoking. Doctors have told us that smoking was the prime reason for my husbands bladder cancer that spread all through his body even though he quit smoking 17 years before cancer hit him. Why is there nothing in monetary help for wives who also served during all of the separations. Thank You, and God Bless America and all of the brave men and women in the military and also for the brave families that had to face lonlyiness, moving constantly, we moved 20 times, and brave children that had to change schools so many times and make new friends and wives, like myself, that had to look for new jobs every time we had to move again. I had to handle the death of my husband and I pray I did everything right as there was no one here to help me. Joan

re husbands for 60 years.. He retired in 1972 after 20 years with the rank of T/Sgt. I do receive his social security but mine is gone