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Karen1968 Asked May 2015

Why can't I sleep?

My mother passed on Tuesday May 26 and everything since I can't sleep.... She was my life, my whole world. Every time I try to sleep my mind starts racing with the why's, and maybe I could have done more things, and the what could I have done different... She was 75 and fell on March 5th and broke her hip and had surgery on March 7th and went down hill after that with refusing to eat and refusing therapy and everything in the nursing home/rehabilitation center.... I miss her so much!...

JessieBelle May 2015
Karen, I am so sorry about your mother. I think we all have thoughts on things we could have done differently when our parents pass. I know I did for my father. I still regret so many things. The thoughts hit most when we are trying to go to sleep. I have a feeling that is very normal... but it still doesn't help us sleep. Go easy on yourself right now, because you are grieving the loss of someone you loved. For some reason she lost the will to live. I don't know if maybe you are a bit angry about that, but if you are it is understandable. Just allow yourself to grieve. If it becomes too bad, maybe your doctor can give you a temporary sleep aid.

It doesn't feel like it now, but it will get better in time. I hope that soon the memory of her last days fade and you remember the mother you had before she fell.

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