I would really like it if my mom would sign some kind of papers in the event something happens to her I can take over her financial obligations, and medical decisions. Not sure how to discuss this with her. Don't want her to feel bad or take it wrong. I just know how important it is to have things in place. I'm only 35, and have my affairs in order for my son if something was to happen to me before he is 18, and there after as well. It just makes sense. Will a document hold legal merit if I just fill out a sheet of paper, we both sign it, and just have it notarized? Sure would be a lot easier, and she'd be more likely to just do that, and not continue to put it off. I want it to place me in charge of her medical decisions as well so I can make the best choices for her, and also support her wishes. Anyone have any tips, info., or advice on this topic to share please? I'm the type of person who likes to have things in order, and in place for "just in case". However we all need it at some point. Don't get why some people won't discuss these things. Thanks a bunches!
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I got all the wills and POA s done with my folks just in the nick of time. My Dad began developing dementia about a year later and would have never agreed to anything at that point. Don't delay.
This book is a bit of "balm for the soul"...about controlling parents that really never thought of their only daughter as an adult. Worth finding.
If you can't think of a way to bring it up, just say that someone at work suggested it because they heard of a terrible thing that happened to someone who didn't have their affairs in order. I think a little white fib is okay for the greater good. Tell them it would make you sleep better knowing all was taken care of for the future. This would include, Living Will, Durable Power of Attorney, Healthcare POA, HIPAA releases, Will, etc. They may even want to see an Elder Law Estate attorney if they have resources they want to protect.
As to your question about a will being legal if you filled "out a sheet of paper", you both signed it and it was notarized, the answer is absolutely not. That is not a legal or binding will.
Good luck to you.