For caregivers, are their activities for my mom protected by HIPPA or other privacy laws? my mother (passed away in June) had 2 occasional caregivers, independent contractors, and they did awesome work for my mom. Now, when going over last year or so of mom's transactions, in order to prepare an accounting for my 4 siblings, how much detail do I include about these caregivers? Isn't it an invasion of privacy for me to share information about the caregivers, how much they were paid per hour.....would it be sufficient for me to just give a total amount per month? And skip the details. Just have a "caregiving" category and not put down every day of the week they were there or what they did. It would take me forever to go over their time sheets for that much detail!
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I can't imagine what the sibs are attempting to accomplish either, unless it's just plain harassment.
I don't think they have any direct recourse to caregivers anyway. Maybe they're trying to figure out how much you spent on caregivers.
Anyway, you have a lot on your plate so try not to let any potential anxiety over what they might do hover over you like a storm cloud.
The other alternative is that a "slick" lawyer could harass you just to frighten and manipulate you into settling and offering something to the sibs. Since there's no insurance and no guaranteed representation, these tactics are low balling and nasty.
But you could always hire an attorney and countersue, throwing the ball back in their court and beat them at their own game.
I doubt if any reasonable attorney would even consider a case like this on a contingency basis though, as personal injury and products liability cases were handled when I worked in that practice area decades ago. Contingency cases have to have a good likelihood of liability, and are more lucrative when there's a deep pockets insurance company involved, not a "shallow pockets" estate or its Personal Representative.
The VNA of Michigan gave its staff cell phones to use rather than their own cell phones, although some of them did. By using phones titled in the agency's name, it avoided the issue of individual staff's names and personal cell phones becoming available to patients.
If your concern is that sibs would contact the caregivers and ask prying questions about the situation with your mother, what care they gave, etc., they would most likely be prohibited by agency rules of privacy, notwithstanding HIPAA, from discussing any kind of personal issues that as these.
Legal personnel are under similar restrictions. We were advised never to discuss client issues outside of the firm, and sometimes there was even a "Chinese wall" created to protect a particular client's issues from discussion with anyone but the attorneys, paralegals and secretaries working on that particular case.
Fortunately, the executor's or trustees legal fees will be covered, but again, from the proceeds of the estate. This could take a year, or more, with the attorneys draining the estate. There is a formula, not sure, but attorneys get 1/3rd?
When you said are caregivers 'covered' by hippa laws, did you maybe mean, are caregivers 'bound' by hippa laws?
If it were me, and I was as burnt out after all of this as you might be, I would:
Give them the name of an attorney to contact for the information they are seeking, be sure they know any contact will be at their own expense. Provide the info to only the attorney, and only what the attorney asks for.
This is a good reason for an in terrorem clause.
That raises another issue - the sibs may not have grounds to challenge your mother's will, so they may try to challenge your administration of her estate, trying to make an issue out of your handling of it rather than your mother's disposition intents.
There's usually a clause in the Will addressing culpability of the PR and providing some protection. Wouldn't hurt to read it and run it by your attorney.
Have the data requests been from the sibs, or from their attorney? This could make a big difference in predicting what actions they might take.
Igloo makes good points about getting credit reports to ensure there are no red flags (not intending to insult you, but there are mistakes on credit reports. I find some every time I get mine). You might also consider putting a 90 day fraud alert on; it stops all but legitimate creditors from getting a report. Since sibling's attorneys aren't legitimate creditors, I don't think sibs or their attorney would have a legitimate right to your credit reports.
And just an FYI - when a potential litigation might be on the horizon, don't speak with the sibs via phone calls; do it via e-mail or snail mail so it can be documented, and do document all contact with them. I have a suspicion that's what they're doing.
And don't for a moment think that kind of manipulation is beyond an attorney, especially one in solo practice or in a small law firm.
I don't think I mentioned this earlier, but your time and costs to produce the documents they want are legitimate estate charges.
As I recall, you've already copied what you're going to send them. In the future, if you can scan the data in, then send it by e-mail (read receipt requested) to keep down the transit costs, you can also tell them that every one of their requests is going to reduce the net amount available in the estate.
Igloo's insights are always good. From your posts, you seem to be meticulous in detailing everything, so that's an excellent foundation if you need to defend your actions.
And even though it can be costly, I think you'd be wise to continue to get your attorney's opinion at different stages of your estate administration. On the other hand, it doesn't hurt to be prepared, as you have been.
Do you know the name of the sibs' attorney? It's easy to check him or her out and determine what the practice area is. If you don't want to share it publicly, PM me and I'll see what I can find out for you. I've found that solo attorneys can sometimes have a "little dog syndrome" - they don't have as many clients, and sometimes need to puff about a bit and do extra work to compensate for that fact. Attorneys in larger firms are billiably driven but usually are overloaded with cases, so they don't become involved in unnecessary or frivolous litigation. It will help to know what their attorney's background is.
.Does your attorney - which I'm assuming is an estate & probate limited practice guy (so he's a specialist) - do litigation? I'd ask him ASAP if he does. If not, ask him who he turns over clients to if there is litigation. Most probate guys seem to me to be very formula oriented & dealing with claims and negotiating competing claims to settle an estate is within the purview of what they routinely do. But if other heirs are planning on challenging either validity of will or suitability of executor or decisions made by executor, well, that could mean litigation - which is going to be very time consuming & costly all around. Not all probate guys do litigation.
If there is anything in your background (& hubs or kids under your roof or dependency for that matter) that could be an issue for suitability, you could find yourself challenged as executor. I'd suggest you pull your & hubs current credit report from the big 3 to see if any recent requests of the report and by whom. If a law firm or PI firm show a pull, then your sibs legal is gathering info on your suitability.
What point are you in probate? Have you been appointed, will ruled valid & letters testamentary issued?
Send them each an email telling them you are your Mom's executor of her estate and when it is settled, you will contact them with their "share" of what it left after appropriate deductions are taken after final expenses. Tell them it will take several months and up to a year before you "settle" everything. Remember, when you are preparing your Mom's house for sale, you will be paying for cleaning it, disposing of property, perhaps repainting the interior, getting a realtor, paying to list/sell the house. This can be a VERY lengthy process and your siblings need to be aware that "their share" will not be coming anytime in the near future. You have NO help from them and, frankly, will probably not get ANY help from them. Take your sweet time and don't rush it because of greedy sibs wanting their money. You should in no way be paying for your Mom's funeral out of your own personal funds. If you have done so, make sure you reimburse yourself.
You are a meticulous recordkeeper and I know you can handle this. If they balk, invite them to "fly in" from out of state to peruse your 16 binders worth of information. If they want copies of everything, make sure you remind them that THAT expense (of copying records) will be taken out of "their" shares. Ask them when they are planning to come out to help you for several weeks to "go through" the house and help you prepare it for sale? Tell them, "I need help scrubbing the floors and cleaning out the cupboards", etc. etc. I bet you will not hear one word from them about rushing to help you do this!
Sorry to sound cold, but again, they did not care to help you when Mom was alive, so do not feel one iota of guilt for not bending over backwards to cater to THEIR needs/inquiries.
They are far out of state. What are the odds that they will all come to town to hassle you about this? We read about greedy siblings time and time again on this forum. It's sad and pathetic. Again, YOU are in the driver's seat as Executor. Keep your records of all final expenses. If you need assistance, by all means hire the same attorney who prepared your Mom's will. Good luck and let us know how you fare.