Rehydrated via iv, and try to "bring her back" from the brink. Before hospice was called (it's been about 3 weeks now), Mom was falling, not eating or drinking much, and in a general decline. My 94 year old father and I can't pick her up, getting her to Dr. appt's was a nightmare, and we were totally stressed out. Hospice has been such a relief; yes, she still doesn't eat very much, but at least we aren't "chasing" medical issues. But one family member, whose husband is a nurse, wants us to take her off hospice and get her rehydrated via iv, and try to get her "well" again. I say, I can't do it anymore. I have my own health issues, and it's all I can do to feed her and wipe her and keep an eye on things. If she wants to make her "better", let her come and take care of her and pick her up when she falls, etc! Now I am even more stressed, thinking we got hospice involved too soon. Gosh, I feel guilty thinking it, but I wish it was just over with! Thoughts? And thank you. You guys keep me sane!
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As it was said in previous responses, you and your Dad are the primary caregivers and no one else is in as good a position to know what's best for your Mom's care. You're doing an awesome job!
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Do these family members really believe that your mom can recover? Do they understand that when the body shuts down, it's doing that for a reason? I guess not. I bet they don't realize that their desire for someone to live indefinitely, could cause her more suffering.
Do what you know is the right thing and try to ignore them.