My Mother is disabled from stroke and her husband won't help. Anything I can legally do?

So, egadix, how are things going?

Dear MickeyMouse, keep a low profile, bring mom for an extended visit, get her room ready, then go from there.

Is she not yet 65? Why won't they qualify for Medicaid? She doesn't have a doctor? Sorry for all the questions.

The reason I ask, if she went to the hospital, was there for three days, she would be eligible under Medicare for 20 days of inpatient rehab. The discharge planning folks would have discussed this with your mom and her husband, presumably.

Is he limited in some way, have dementia or otherwise impaired? I think I would be going out to see her soon.

Did she go to the hospital when she had the stroke? Do you know she had a stroke or is this an assumption on someone's part?

Sorry mistyped.....this will be a permanent move.

I think you need to call him and talk to him. You need to find out what the doctors have told him. Just gather information right now and tell him youre aure you both want the best for your mom. He may be overwhelmed.

4 years ago my mom lost her job and she was supporting both of them. So he decided to move from California (where I live) to Oklahoma. The husband (not my dad) has family out there that wanted to help them with things. She wasn't crazy about the idea but followed him anyways. Before her stroke she came to visit and told all of us kids that she hates it there and wants to leave him to come back to us. Then she had the stroke.

She can talk, but her words are jumbled, she calls me Mickey Mouse, instead of my name. She has straight out told me, I want to come home in the exact words while crying over the phone.

This will be a temporary move and like I said, she planned on leaving him before the stroke. I would like his cooperation but I fear I will not get it.

Is this meant to be a temporary arrangement or are your mom and her husband ending the marriage? It seems to me that you will need his support for the move, if he doesn't co-operate things could get nasty in a hurry.
BTW, if mom can't speak how is she communicating her desire to move to you?

If she wants to live with you, go get her. You don't need her husband's permission.

It is absolutely CRITICAL that your mom get therapy IMMEDIATELY. Her function is far better improved by rehab ASAP!

Medicare pays for rehab. I have no idea why she hasn't gotten any. It's neglect, frankly.

She can actually read and write normally. Her husband does not work so they rely on disability and social security, his excuse is that she cannot qualify for medicare/cal so she is unable to get therapy because they can't afford it. So she has no doctor that I can talk to because of this.

I have spoken to him and he is full of excuses.

I think the best thing to do would be to draft a PoA document and fly out there. Have her sign it and bring her home with me.

What you think?

Her reading and writing ability nay be affected. Why won't her husband allow therapy? Have you spoken to him? Is she being "held against her will"? Medical neglect? Have you spoken to her doctors?

Her husband will not allow her to go to any type of therapy. Since her speech is not great she is unable to communicate to her husband that she wants to leave. She will also not be able to communicate that she wants power of attorney to me. I would have to fly out there and have her sign a document I suppose.

I'm sorry, i misread your question. Will her husband not allow her to go to a rehab facility? Will she grant you POA?

Is she getting speech and other therapies?