This year, my father has had half a dozen fecal explosions for lack of a better word, one today, one earlier this month. He doesn't speak much anymore and never tells me when this happens. I find out. Last time, I opened the washer to wash my clothes, and the stench hit me. This time, I went to dry cat blankets and found seeds and vegetables in the lint catcher. I would also later find actual feces in the dryer. He goes in his pants, then puts them in the washer without removing any feces. Anyone who's used cloth diapers knows to wash them out first. I find feces all over the bathroom floor, up and down the wall (wallpaper is now stained brown), on the seat, on light switches, towels, his bed spread, and the list goes on. I want to scream. He says he has no cramping, just goes. [Actually, I ask a long question and get a yes or no response if I'm lucky.] He won't wear diapers. I'm gone 45 hours a week at a job that's pushing me to my limit, and I come home to this. Anyone have fecal explosion cleaning tips? I told him to just dump the fecal clothes in the laundry tub next time so I can pre-remove most of the waste before washing but I don't know if he'll comply. I feel like I'm being punished. I have lots of animals and fecal management is what I do but this is worse than anything the animals do. Btw, he does shower (about 1 minute worth) but hasn't used shampoo or soap in two years. It's too complicated for him I guess.
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contact social services to see what he qualifies for regarding protection for his welfare and financial resources; discuss it with his doctor- what your dad is doing is quite risky for his and other's health, contact a lawyer regarding guardianship and meet with the entire family and come up with an alternative.
I would not leave him alone at any time. You may need to accompany him to the bathroom every time to ensure hygiene is being used. His condition will progress, so getting him help will have to be done sooner or later. It sounds like the health risks in your home require it sooner.
My favorite quote:
"The dementia patient isn't giving you a hard time,
HE is having a hard time"...
I would not leave him alone... I would spend the family funds on a caregiver or look into getting him in a NH..
You have enough to do working full time... I would seek professional help..
Good luck... I know it's not easy....
Again, get help.
Ask the doctor if contact (hands, mouth, eating) can cause fecal explosions.
Get the treatment for that.
Get help. You can get ill. Use gloves and a mask.
Ask his MD to order a bath aide for him at least once a week.