I need quick advice before tonight!
My grandma went to the hospital on Tuesday because of craziness from a UTI, finally today she is back to normal and being herself it was a joy as she has been out of it for weeks because they couldn't get rid of the UTI. while in the hospital they found a bleeding ulcer hence why she had anemia/ so with that they want to put under anthesia tomorrow to see if there is cancer or something else. They said it should about 15 minutes. All the horror stories I have heard about anthesia I am worried. Is it worth it, will be she be normal after. Please tell me success of stories or horror stories of anthesia in an elderly my grandma is 86.
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He had surgeries at 94 and 95 for fractured femurs.
But really, it depends on the individual and what other medical conditions the person has.
One thing to ask the physician who'll perform the procedure is what's the worst that could happen if she doesn't have it done? And can she live with that, and is that acceptable to her and is it acceptable to her family?
I hope you find peace and comfort in the decision you make.
Each time my husband (mid 70s to mid 80s, with dementia) was hospitalized I think it took nearly 5 months for him to get back to his former baseline. This was just from the hospitalization experience, no anesthesia involved!
1teach1cory, I expect that your dear grandmother is going to be at least a little foggy for weeks, whether she has this procedure or not. She has already had considerable trauma with her health. The anesthesia may make the recovery period longer.
It sounds like this decision is hers, but you can try to influence her if you have strong opinions.
Several years ago when my mother was in her mid 80s her doctor wanted her to have some tests for a mass that showed up on a scan. My mother refused, saying "if it is cancer, I will not accept treatment, so what is the point in even knowing? I'm going to die of something. If this is it, I'm OK with it. I've had a good long life." Wow! Her doctor accepted that. (Mom is still with us, so it wasn't cancer.)
I'd want to know from the anesthesiologist what the risks are, how long it stays in her system, etc. And I'd want to know from the doctor what will they do with the information they gather? What are the realistic options for treatment? I'd share this with Grandma.
It is really, really hard to feel responsible for decisions for a loved one, isn't it? Hugs to you, dear caregiver, and please don't feel guilty for whatever happens. We all try hard to do our best. That is all you can expect from yourself!
Please come back and tell us how this all works out.
I know when I had surgery to remove a large kidney stone, I was in a brain fog for over a month.
What will they do with the information they get from this procedure? If they find out the cause of the ulcer, can they treat it? I guess that is the approach I'd take if I had to make a decision for her. What are the benefits of having this test vs the benefits of not having anesthesia?
Unless you are her medical POA AND she is deemed not competent to make her own decisions, it really won't be up to you.
If they think she can make her own decisions then it's up to her...
My Mom had gallbladder surgery at 88 and in my opinion after that the dementia became worse.. She's 93 now and at Stage 6 of the Alzheimer stage..
BUT my husbands Grandmother had same surgery at 83 and had no dementia and lived till 94..
Good luck.. I understand your hesitation... It could be nothing serious and she could live a long and healthy life..