I am thinking about bringing Mom-in-law home from memory care unit. Advice?

Thanks for the responses. I also have a call in to an "aging specialist" in our area to help me evaluate what is the best for my MIL. (Just so I know that we are making the right decision for her - not just for us) I have to say this is one of the "best" rated facilities near to us. Rated one of the "top 10". We live 50 miles outside of a major metropolitan area. My issue is that they noted a sore on her foot and then waited 24 days to evaluate it again and then wanted to increase anti-anxiety drugs when in reality she had a UTI. She had been wetting herself all of a sudden and no one informed us until after the urine test was confirmed when we took her to the doctor. She has a history of UTI and they know this. I cared for my father (bedridden with cancer for two years), Grandma and my great aunt, but none of them ever went to a facility. There were always at home. I just don't want to jerk her out of there and then find out that we (with paid help) are incapable of meeting her needs. Thanks, again - all of your comments have given me something to think about.

If your MIL is already in memory care, it means she needs 24/7 oversite. Caring for a dementia patient is hard enough that it requires more than one caregiver. Please don't do this to yourself. Can you find another facility? $5000 a month is really cheap for 24/7 care, at least it is in my state. Maybe the one she is in is not the best in your area. You might have to pay more, but it would be worth it if you don't have to worry about her.

busygrandma55, from your screen name sounds like you are already a busy person.

The fact that your Mom-in-law is already in a memory care units says volumes why she is there. What does your husband have to say about his mother coming to live with you both?

Having someone living at home with serious dementia it would be like having 5 pre-school grandchildren in the house 24 hours a day, except they won't be sleeping through the night or taking naps in the afternoons.

It's really hard living 24/7 with someone with dementia. Look for another facility.

Can you find another facility?

If you take her out AMA (against medical advice) you will be responsible for unpaid bills not covered by insurance when AMA happens. Don't even think about taking her out of there. Bad things will happen.