My husband is dying from lung cancer, he's in respite care but will be coming home. Am I taking on too much?

I'm 47 years old and could not take care of a bed bound person who has lost all of their faculties. Hospice will breeze in and out but the burden of care will be all on you. Yes, I respectfully feel that you are taking on too much.

Why is he 'coming home on Saturday', my dear lady? He is bed bound. You are 81 and want to try to be his sole caretaker? You don't mention any help forthcoming. AND he has lost all his faculties? I'm afraid you won't be able to do anything much for him, sadly. He will be lying there oblivious to where he is and you will injure yourself and/or him. You would be doing your husband and yourself better by calling hospice, or at least inquire about a NH.

He is bed bound, and I shall be taking care of all his needs. He has totally lost all his faculties.

I know you want to do this for him, but I also fear you are taking on too much. There will come a time where he will not be able to help you at all and you will have to bathe, toilet and re-position a totally bed bound man who may be much larger than you. Even if you are willing to try this out for now I urge you to have alternative in place if the need arises. Is there a hospice facility near you?

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You may indeed be taking on too much. Hospice will not provide 24/7 care. I imagine you'll need help managing his care when hospice staff are not with you. Can you get in home care help? Other options would be a hospice center or a skilled nursing care facility.