Kicking his a__ to the curb isn't going to be easy. Particularly if he's working, helping with the bills, and pulling his weight around the house. If he's just a lazy freeloader who resorts to intimidation tactics, emotional blackmail, or just plain verbal abuse to keep the status quo you could get the authorities involved.
Yet I get the feeling you're going by what Mom tells you he does, and SHE might not want him out. Talk with the man and try to forge a compromise whereby he can share the responsibility of caregiving with you. As she ages, you're going to need all the help you can get. Don't turn into one of those sisters who won't let their brothers pitch in and then go around claiming they're heartless bums who don't want to help with anything.
no,no,i want to move in to take care of her,im her daughter,and im concerned with the abuse that is causeing her depression,and not helping her.My plan would be to work,take care of her ,make sure she eats right,meds taken right walks to parks getting her around and out of the house some.she needs tender loving care ,i want to spend quaily time with her.brother can not and does not give her support
He is caring for mom? Does she need him there? Who will care for her if bro leaves? Are you able to care for her? Have you looked at facilities and chosen a couple that are ok for mom and her levelof care needs? What is the plan?otyer thann having bro get out?
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Yet I get the feeling you're going by what Mom tells you he does, and SHE might not want him out. Talk with the man and try to forge a compromise whereby he can share the responsibility of caregiving with you. As she ages, you're going to need all the help you can get. Don't turn into one of those sisters who won't let their brothers pitch in and then go around claiming they're heartless bums who don't want to help with anything.
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