Do you confront someone with dementia?

Jinx is right. It's a matter of having a lot of patience. There is no other option that I am aware of. One good thing is that often this stage does not last forever. Eventually, my cousin stopped hiding things, stopped asking about items and doesn't notice if things are missing or not. It's sad that she has progressed, but she is no longer distressed about missing items.

As Jeanne says, "Remember that your mother can't help this behavior, and reasoning does little good." Repeat this to yourself hourly or more often as needed. This is really, really hard. Sorry.

If that works, it's fine. If she hides it and you can't locate it though....I might just tell her you will keep it for safekeeping. Or, I might say, we'll get the money from the bank later on. The bank is closed, but later when they open, we'll go. I would go with whatever she will accept and keeps her content.

No I take care of her finances but every other day she wants 100.00 and has not gone anywhere she hides it and think she sent it or someone stole it I think I will find it and then just give her the same money over again

What do you mean that you can't tell her how to spend? Is she still paying her own bills? If so, I'd go behind her and double check everything. She could accidentally make huge errors or forget to cover some pretty important bills. If she has dementia, I'd carefully monitor her spending as it could have dire consequences. She could pay a lot of money for something she doesn't even need.

I wouldn't bother trying to explain things like missing items. She won't likely believe you and if she does, she'll forget the next time it happens. With my cousin, I would just look and find the item. Just say it must have gotten placed there by mistake.

With my cousin, I'd put some items out of her sight, because she would likely hide it later and I would have to search, so I leaned to put the remote away, the phone, etc. If not, she would hide them and deny it.

I learned that a simple, answer that pleases and lets us move on is best. Yes, there they are, they must have been placed there by mistake, but my that blouse is really your color. I really like it. Would you like a snack or to watch tv now. I'd not dwell on it and switch the conversation when you see she's getting agitated. And if agitated, soothe her by telling her things have been corrected. All is fine. No need to worry, I took care of it. That seems to work better than trying to convince her that she is mistaken.

Well, you can try to explain, but that is pretty much a lost cause. Your mother is losing her ability to reason.

She hides things to keep them safe -- she is worried about theft. Then she can't remember that she hid them and that convinces her that someone really is stealing from her. It is a vicious cycle! It does not last forever, but while it does it can be frustrating for all concerned.

Don't argue with her but offer more comforting explanations. After a while you'll learn her favorite hiding places and that will help. "Oh Mom! I'm so sorry that your lovely sunglasses have gone missing! I can't imagine that Dorothy took them, but maybe she did move them when she was here. I'll help you look for them."

"Do you have money? Well, Mom, you are not rich, but by being careful you'll be able to pay your own way and not wind up in the poorhouse! And you can even afford some nice treats once in a while. I'd say you are lucky!"

This is a very challenging phase. Remember that your mother can't help this behavior, and reasoning does little good. Try to stay upbeat and sympathetic without agreeing that someone is stealing from her.