If there is misuse of funds & gross decisions with regard to healthcare decisions. This person is a cousin & has both poa and healthcare poa over my parents. There has been misuse of funds which have put parents in financial hardship and medical neglect.
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Or you may have to contact a lawyer on your own.
Do this sooner rather than later and keep any proof you have of the misuse of funds and improper decisions.
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At that point a Guardianship may be necessary. (personal opinions, a pain it the butt and expensive route to take but that may be what is necessary)
You may have to prepare for a legal battle.
And has been suggested Dept. on Aging.
Or if you have a Senior Services in your town they may be able to help.
Just because you are their daughter does not mean you are going to magically take over and take the old DPOA to task. If your parents have been in a situation of gross neglect for a prolonged period of time and you did nothing, you can be viewed as complicit in the situation and so unfit to ever be named guardian.
If family digress into "she said / he said" bickering, the judge will more than likely totally move past ever naming family and permanently appoint an outside guardian. Again, guardian can consult with family, but does NOT have to.
Also if there is anything amiss in your background -like less than stellar credit report, any prior legal issues, anyone in your household having felonies, you & your spouse do not have jobs with stable income, etc - you can probably forget ever getting appointed guardian. Running a credit & priors history on potential guardians seems to be pretty routine by the courts. Often family - even well intentioned & loving family - will be bypassed for guardian over a court appointed one as the courts have to think of what is the long term best situation for the ward as well as for the required reporting to the court.
I believe many states provide training on reporting abuse. These are sometimes available to the public as workshops you can attend, depending on where you live. These train nurses but also educate everyone on how to speak up when you see something, instead of pretending it doesn't exist, or remaining silent due to fear.
If your cousin is making bad healthcare decisions, maybe this needs to be brought to the attention of the medical providers who are also legally obligated to report.
I know often it is hard to mobilize anyone, but be persistent. If you are honest and you continue to tell the truth and don't back down, then eventually you will win others to your side.
I have been in several situations in the past when I had overwhelmingly obvious evidence of abuse. Two decades ago I found out I could report anonymously but I knew that to do so would put me at risk. At that time it didn't seem that there were any protections provided for me given the particulars of the situation should the abusers have "guessed" who had filed the anonymous report. So I tried a rather roundabout way. My first attempt consisted of a phone call where I was treated with gross disrespect and told to "mind my own business." I knew this person, though he was supposed to be a professional, was not acting in the victim's best interest. I also realized that he was being paid by the abusers, so maybe I had chosen the wrong person. Then, I tried to report the abuse to someone I knew personally and trusted, who had much more clout than I did.
I heard those three words I really needed to hear then, and even now, two decades later, I love hearing those words, "I believe you."
It took less than two weeks. I know now that what I told this person traveled right up the ranks to the administrators who were the ones who employed certain personnel directly involved. Now, they were forced to take action, to help the victim get away, and provide a safe place. Whereas I did not have this power myself, somehow I managed to get those who had much more legal power than I did to help change the situation.
It is sad and criminal when someone abuses the trust placed in them with the POA.