I'm a 24 hr live in for a 93 year old lady who has been incapacitated by a stroke for over 10 years. My dad is her poa and medical proxy since she has no family. My dad is very effective and cares about her more than most family members care about each other. She's not really hard to care for per se but the issue is that I'm paid by the state but my dad can't be paid for her care because it's a conflict of interest due to poa. I'm having to work almost every day because my dad also lives here (it's a big house and requires daily maintenance) and we can't hire an extra person because of his dog. It's a long story but he's gone most of the day either working or dealing with his wife's dialysis and her other medical care. They are just married in the legal sense blah blah. Anyway, he's burnt out running for her and sometimes if I say I need a break, he will do breakfast or something but sometimes, he gets moody and says I get paid well and he wishes he could have a break. I try to explain that money isn't everything to me and that his issue is a personal choice. He chose to not get divorced and keep running himself ragged for his wife. However, I have an employment issue and I'm sorry you can't get paid but I didn't sign up for working every day or feeling like I should be so grateful if he lets me sleep in 2 days a month. There is no real solution because he can't move with the wife because the apartment doesn't take dogs, I tried to encourage him to find a dog friendly apartment before he renewed her lease but nope. It's not financially possible for him to pay for 2 apartments. I'm not going to quit and leave a good job. I guess there's no answer to my problem but it felt good to express it. It's just annoying because he's unable to separate my employee needs from being my dad. We don't fight over it because he just doesn't get it, he just thinks that the paycheck is the main objective of my existence but I would rather have a little less money and more fun. Sorry so long. Thanks for reading!
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After all, plenty of HCA's will find that their clients' pets are very much on the job description. I realise that this pet isn't your client's, but he's still part of the household and all he needs is someone who's not going to do anything idiotic.
I have a Staffie, and I'd be cautious about who I left him with too. Sweetest natured and best tempered dog in the world, but he 'shakes hands' with able bodied adults and some of them can get quite freaked out about it - if they've no common sense, that is. I've had him nearly four years and I can't get him out of the sincerely held belief that this is just good manners.
Crating dogs is horrible. I'm glad you wouldn't consider that.
It's not possible to separate him from the lady's and the caregiver's rooms?
Technically, the dog could be boarded but it's not going to happen so .... :(
You're right, the job was only supposed to be 6 months and it's going on 4 years! I've saved a lot of money and saw Hamilton a lot!
It is a relatively easy job and well paying job that won't last forever. All the visiting nurses and social workers love me and can't believe how good she looks, eats, drinks, never had a bedsore, etc so I know I'm doing a good thing, the whole reason why my dad needed me is because the previous workers were neglectful or doing the bare minimum or smoking weed, etc bc she can't talk so they treated it like party time. They weren't abusive but they definitely didn't respect the position.
Anyway, you're on point with the blurred lines and family and my dad being moody and burnt out, too. He's usually nice but the moodiness is the unprofessional part that is upsetting. I guess I should give him some slack due to the heat. I think half the country is ready to blow up! Lol
Thanks so much, I just needed to "talk" and I'm isolated and it's hard to talk to my bff because it boils down to "you can stay home and make 2x more than me when I have to drive an hour and deal with idiots". I get her point but what people don't understand is that money doesn't mean everything to me. I'd be ok making a little less and living more but they focus on the money too much. I'm totally thankful for it but there's value in other things, too. Thanks again! Xo
Why would I have a problem getting another job in my degree field? I have contacts and an impeccable record, I'm not sure how this topic went from being overworked to asking about life insurance on my patient and my future employment ability. Bizarre.
•The right to overtime pay at time-and-a-half after 40 hours of work in a week, or 44 hours for workers who live in their employer’s home;
•A day of rest (24 hours) every seven days, or overtime pay if they agree to work on that day;
•Three paid days of rest each year after one year of work for the same employer;
That's the NY Domestic Workers Bill of Rights.