My mother was transitioned from Assisted Living to a nursing home. We were running out of money, and transition to nursing home was necessary, and I am now applying for Medical Assistance. My mother hates the place, despite the fact that it ranks higher than any nursing home in the area based on CMS website, and it has a good reputation. My mother has dementia from a brain aneurysm many years ago. She is 80 years old. Tonight I received a call that she threw the television remote at her roommate, and now they have moved my mother from a double room to a quad (this seemed illogical, as she has had problems with two previous roommates!). Anyway, I am worried about her getting kicked out if she does not straighten up. She could end up in a geri-psych ward, which would be horrible for her. Any advice from others who have a parent with dementia and other disabilities and have a poor adjustment to nursing home?
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Question, did your Mom have surgery for her broken hip? If yes, any time a senior who has any type of memory issue goes under for surgery, it will advance the dementia. If not, I wonder if your Mom has an urinary tract infection. Such infections can cause an elder not be themselves, become angry, etc.
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Have you checked to see if your mom qualifies for Memory Care in your state? Some states provide the costs for Memory Care for those who have dementia that requires that kind of facility. I'd look into that.
If you mom is acting violent, then I would think that an evaluation would be welcomed, because they could get medications adjusted that might help her feel better. If she is more at peace, then she would likely make a better roommate and be content enough to adjust to the nursing home.
I wonder why you say a geripsych unit (where they will adjust her meds) would be terrible thing? Most posters on this board have had very good experience with geripsych units.
My mom is only calm in her memory care center when she has company as she's afraid of the other residents and doesn't understand why they are there - and their behavior can get very aggressive - her roommate is very late stage but will sometimes stare at my mom making her upset
Unfortunately you may need to visit a neurologist to see about suitable anti anxiety drugs -