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Caregiverhelp11 Asked December 2016

My Mother's clothes keeps disappearing at nursing home. Any suggestions?

Just about all the clothes I have taken to the nursing home is gone. I've written names on them with markers. I recently talked to the CNAs and the Laundry Supervisor and the Administrator, because I've decided to buy her a whole new wardrobe, but I sure would hate for all of that to disappear too. I just ordered some labels I can iron on with her name preprinted on them. Does anybody have any other suggestions? It's frustrating that she doesn't have the nice matching clothes to wear and it can get expensive.

Caregiverhelp11 Jan 2017
Thanks for your suggestions. I ordered some labels online with
her name printed on them, just ironed them on and hope that may
help, but not to positive that it will. The labels are pretty small, but
it's better than trying to write her name on the back of a small
clothing label that has the size and name of brand.

We shall see. I pray the clothes make it back to her room because I
bought her clothes that I know will be better suited for her and will
keep her warm during the winter months.

eeyore12 Jan 2017
I have found that using only a marker to label clothes with doesn't show up enough for the workers to notice. So preprinted iron on labels or the iron on labels you can by and mark and iron on work much better. For one thing the laundry room is always inundated with dirty clothes and they don't have time to hunt for a name on an article, plus yes, other patients/clients may see something and take it due to having mental issues or lack thereof. I agree thrift stores and wally world is the way to go.

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freqflyer Dec 2016
When my Mom was in long-term-care, I would do her own laundry every couple of days. Only once Mom had some missing clothes and that was because I was too sick to visit and Mom's hamper was full, so the facility did the laundry and hadn't returned it yet.

I agree with Surprise, above, buy clothing at thrift or second-hand shops. The clothes are in good condition and very inexpensive. Thus, when missing, the cost isn't that great of a loss.

surprise Dec 2016
My mthr was a hoarder before she moved to memory care. She would collect clothes of all sorts to give to other people in need. Once in memory care, she would pick up every magazine in the facility, put them on her walker, and hide them away in her room. We were greatly surprised when another former hoarder moved in, who took every greeting card anyone had, as well as SHOES. That's a pretty nasty choice of item in a home where almost everyone is incontinent, but to each his own.

What I'm suggesting is that it's not management that's taking the clothes, it's another resident. My mthr's aide told me to go to Wally World or Goodwill and buy cheap things that don't matter. Once I started taking the attitude that it did not matter, that someone was being blessed by the clothes, I felt much better about the situation. I made reports to the management too, and when the other hoarder moved out they gave me a box full of mthr's cards and shoes, all neatly labeled.

Sunnygirl1 Dec 2016
Yes, I photograph all of my cousin's clothes, even those that I get from thrift shops. There are a few that I shop at and I find her some lovely items that often are name brands and look new. (Lauren, Jones NY, Crown & Ivy) And they are only a few dollars.

cwillie Dec 2016
It seems a common complaint that clothes go missing in the nursing home, I had my mom in for a two week respite stay and came home missing a pair of pants but with an additional night gown ;) As much as we want to see our parents dressing nicely it is really just important that they are kept warm and comfortable. Sunny has some great tips for your better items, but many others have also recommended shopping at second hand stores for the majority of their everyday clothing needs.

Sunnygirl1 Dec 2016
Oh, I wanted to add that your mom's clothing may be so nice that it's gotten the attention of someone who wants it. While I still purchase my cousin some new outfits, I try to get things that are not very expensive.

Sunnygirl1 Dec 2016
Having clothes disappear is frustrating. And since all of her clothes are gone, I'd be insisting on a refund. I'd try to come up with some receipts. Having a few items of clothing disappear is one thing, but all.....they need to conduct an investigation AND replace the clothes. They all have not been misplaced. Who are they trying to kid?

What I do for my cousin, who is in Memory Care, is first write her name inside on label AND on the clothing item, I keep the receipts, I write down a description of the item along with the price and where it was purchased. Then, I lay the item on a table and photograph each item of clothing. I keep the photos on my phone. AND I tell them what I have done, so it gives them fair WARNING. So far, I haven't had to demand replacement on anything, but bras. And that stopped last year.

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