Grief support group and talking to therapist. Does it help?

Thank you fregflyer. I appreciate your perspective. I know its early and everyone tells me I need more time. But I'm so tearful over my dad, it doesn't seem real to me that his gone. I'm so use to arranging everything around him, that I'm lost. I had my resentments with my siblings over his care. And my dad was grumpy a lot, but I didn't want him to die. I guess all I can do is keep taking it day by day. Moment by moment. Thank you again.

cdnreader, I go to a talk therapist, who is around my age [70], and who had her own issues with her own late elderly parents. Thus when she says "she understands", I know she really means it.

Because of the stress regarding my parents, plus my Dad passing only a few months ago, and other issues in my life, my primary doctor has placed me on some calming meds and anti-depressents which have really helped. I use to refuse such medicine but I decided it was silly for me not to try them. I am on very low dosages.

Thank you for your replies Jeanne and Barb. I appreciate it a lot. I think I will try both and see how it goes. I know the world keeps going even though I feel like mine has stopped. I try to go to work but inside I'm still so angry about my dad's passing. 2017 will be the first full year without my dad. I find it very hard to accept.

I know that my mom found going to a grief group, sponsored by a local funeral home and facilitated by a social worker, to be extremely helpful after my dad died after a long battle with leukemia. She said that her main emotion at the time was anger ( at my dad for dying, at the disease, of the unfairness of everything) that she needed someplace anonymous and safe to let it out.

Less than three months is way too early to expect the grief to recede into the background. Give yourself time.

I found (find) it helpful to continue to attend the caregivers' support group meetings. Those are people who've been on the journey with me. And now that I have taken the complete journey I can be especially supportive to new people.

I happened to be seeing a psychologist for a sleep disorder at the time of my husband's death. He reassured me that my experiences were normal mourning. About a year later I did see a psychotherapist to discuss my adjusting to the new normals in my life. That was helpful.

If your grief reactions are interfering with your life you my want to try a support group or a therapist. But at this point be gentle with yourself. It is early days.