What is the best way to transition spouse to memory care facility?

There isn't an easy way. We are very fortunate to be living in a senior community that will have a Memory Care section in March. I have lots of support from friends and staff, but want to make it as 'soft' as possible. He is very attached to me, very dependent, always has been and the dementia has increased that. I want to start talking about the move because we have always made decisions together, but I don't want to do it too early. Thank you so much for you reply, I am agreeing with you!

Dear Pegosa,

I know you are going through a lot. And there is a lot to consider. Have you considered talking to a social worker or family doctor that might help with the transition.

I tend to think telling someone earlier the better because they can adjust to the news. If we tell someone something so important too late, they will feel like we have dropped a bombshell on them. The sooner you can start the process the better. Maybe start asking them what they would like to take with them or giving them a tour or showing them pictures of their new home. And if they react badly, this way you can see if they can speak to a counselor about the transition as well.

Take care. I know this is hard on you too. And there is a lot you are doing. Don't hesitate to seek counseling or support for yourself as well.

When do I tell him he is moving? I am furnishing a memory care apartment, and some of his things will go with him, when do I start this process?

Stay away for two weeks. When my sister moves to a new group home, I do not take her out or visit for two weeks. This works well.