How do you tell your loved one they have to stay in a nursing home and you have to sell their condo?

kelley1127, that is a heart breaking situation, especially if your Cousin thinks she will be going back to her home. As time goes on, if your Cousin starts to ask about going "home" see if she can tell you which home. With dementia, "home" could mean their childhood home. Barb, above, had a great idea :)

I noticed my Mom, who was living in long-term-care, was saying she wanting to go home. Ok, which home? One clue was she kept asking about the cattle. Then we knew which home she was referring... her childhood home.

For selling your Cousin's condo, if the condo shows well, that would be ideal. If it needs updating, don't try to deal with that... sell it "as is" as there are enough flippers out there who will be interested. I sold my parents house "as is", my Dad was happy with the price, same with the buyer, it was a win-win.

Hi Barb,
Thanks so much for your answer! My brother has power of attorney for health another nephew has it for finances. She is in and out of remembering things for the most part she is with it. Great idea to get the doctors involved thank you! It is a heart breaking situation.

Do you or your brothers have Power of Attorney for Health and Finances?

Does your Loved One have dementia, or is she compis mentis enough to recognize that her health has declined to the point that she can no longer live at home?

I'm usually in favor of getting a medical professional to deliver this news, with family present for support. Look at it this way. Most people view their younger relatives as "children" with no real knowledge of the world. A doctor is a person of authority in the eyes of most elders.